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The sensitive side of Mother’s Day: The fragile hearts of motherless children

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As American’s prepare for another Hallmark holiday (Mother’s Day), there are a group of individuals who are preparing for a day of sorrow or simply are not planning to celebrate or feel anything in reference to Mother’s Day. While Mother’s Day is a nice way to say ‘thanks Mom’, motherless children are reminded day in and day for weeks and it hurts that they can no longer say 'thanks mom'.

Most everyone grew up with a female role model in their formative years. That woman could have been a mother, an aunt, a sister, a grandmother, a godmother or even a foster mom. She is the one who helped mold you in the person you are today; therefore the void in your heart and the annoyance of this holiday is totally understandable.

So how do motherless children cope with Mother’s Day? There is no correct answer to this question. Everyone has to find their own way to move forward and find a new focal point for this day. While your heart may be empty, there may be a child looking to you as their mother now.

Still wondering what to do if you have no children to shift the focus to in order to ease your pain? Here a few ideas to remember your mother and pay tribute to her on a day you miss her presence deeply.

  • Take out an old photo album and let your mind and soul be filled with wonderful memories of younger days
  • Run up to Lowe’s, Home Depot or a local nursery and purchase a plant that was a favorite of your moms. Plant the blooming flower in your yard or in a pot for the deck or patio
  • Call up a cousin or perhaps a family friend and ask if they would share memories with you for a few moments
  • Go to the store, grabs snacks that you and mom liked and veg out on the couch with a good movie. Sometimes the best medicine is to just keep it low key and simple

For those of you, who still have your mother in your life, treasure every moment. We are not promised a tomorrow and neither are our mothers, so make time this year to give your mother some Mother’s Day love. It's also important to be sensitive to your friends or family members who's mother is no longer in the picture; their hearts are fragile.

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