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The secret to getting anything you want (part one)

Things I want
Things I want
John Waddell

Let’s follow the logical path. We want things and interactions because we believe having them will make us feel good. The Law of Attraction tells us that like attracts like. So we must feel good to attract more of what feels good.

Life can be one joyful event after another

You would think that no one would need convincing to have feeling good be a primary goal, but in our culture we have been taught that other things are more important: pleasing parents and teachers, loyalty, duty, doing our homework, facing our problems, hard work, no pain no gain, pleasing God—the list is quite long.

Focusing on just feeling good, without accomplishing something first, seems lazy and frivolous. It doesn’t seem like a way to get ahead in life. Studying and being industrious is the way to succeed, but in our parent’s zeal (and later our own) to get us to achieve, we have often put the cart before the horse. The general belief is: do your work, then enjoy yourself; accomplish something, then bask in your success (but only briefly, lest you become lazy and content).

The idea of feeling good while doing our obligatory tasks seems foreign to most of us. Work, then play. But the Law of Attraction turns this upside down: make the effort to feel good first, and then your work becomes play.

Fear of feeling good

Many people don’t want to feel good about the status quo, such as an unsatisfying partner or unpleasant job, because they’re afraid they will attract more of the same. But that’s not how it works. If you focus on the negative aspects of your work or the people in your life, you will get more of those aspects. Thus, it is beneficial to see the best in every situation.

Let’s use the example of money. Some are afraid if they appreciate the money they have, the Universe will say, “Oh, she likes her limited income; we’ll stop there.”

We’ve been taught since childhood, if we say we’re satisfied, those in authority—the ones with the power—won’t give us more (food, allowance, play time). If we want more, the best thing to do is let them know how bad we feel. Often the more intense the complaint, the more likely we succeeded.

As adults, the government is the authority for many of us, and there are a multitude of organizations whose main purpose is to complain to the government (lobbyists, environmental groups, business groups). For others, God has replaced the parental authority, and they let Him know how bad they feel.

Letting people know how you feel, whether it’s a politician or a spouse, can be beneficial. And it appears, the people who complain the loudest often get their way (passing laws against texting while driving, getting the government to respond to the oil spill).

But many times these are Pyrrhic victories, because, while there is an immediate feeling of success, the feeling of powerlessness continues. As long as we believe the power to get what we want lies in some person or institution outside our control (and they all basically are) we can never feel fully in charge of our lives.

There is nothing more important than feeling good

The secret to getting everything we want is to make our primary goal feeling good, no matter what is going on around us. We can change ourselves rather than desperately pushing to change the people and situations in our lives. From a state of displeasure, we feel motivated to take action, but ultimately we draw in more of the same. From a state of feeling good, we are inspired to take the perfect action to realign our life.

Being able to feel good in spite of the many painful things in our lives and in the world takes effort and skill. That is one reason people often do not believe the Law of Attraction works. They will do a few exercises or say some affirmations, and then go right back to feeling bad about the thing they want to change. And, of course, they get more of that.

To use the Law of Attraction to our benefit rather than detraction, we have to learn how to be happy no matter what is going on in our lives. In part two, we’ll look at how to do that.

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