"It was only a small, brief touch. Yet it changed her entire day and transformed doubts into hope, fears into courage, loneliness into comfort. The infusion of emotions after Steve softly held Susan's hands, if even for a few short moments."
The Power of Touch
According to Psychology Today, it reported "we have an innate ability to decode emotions via touch alone. In a series of studies, Hertenstein had volunteers attempt to communicate a list of emotions to a blindfolded stranger solely through touch." (Source)
It's amazing how powerful our touch is to another. In this case, to your spouse.
We've known couples that we rarely seen touch each other, as if it's not practical since they're already married. Perhaps they did in the beginning, but after being married for a while, they somehow felt the need was no longer necessary. Not so.
How long has it been since you've softly, lovingly touched your spouse?
There are Benefits
Back in 1976, a study was conducted on library students that needed to return library books. Some were touched briefly and lightly by the librarian, and other were note. The results showed that those that were touched, even if they did not notice the touch, brought back the books favorably more than those untouched.
Even waitresses it seems, have much higher tips if given the opportunity for quick, brief touches.
Even NBA players are affected by touch. University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign psychologist Michael Kraus led a study on basketball players before and during the season, that showed how that basketball players that affirmed and encouraged each other through touch were more effective in the play-off season. They succeed at a higher rate.
'"Basketball players sometimes don't have time to say an encouraging word to a teammate; instead, they developed this incredible repertoire of touch to communicate quickly and accurately," he explains, adding that touch can likely improve performance across any cooperative context."' (source)
Reignite Your Love
Needless to say, the power of touch in your own marriage is beyond the above related benefits. In fact, simple touches for a couple can melt down walls, clear the air, bring forgiveness and empower your spouse.
As stated by a New York Times article, "In the brain, prefrontal areas, which help regulate emotion, can relax, freeing them for another of their primary purposes: problem solving. In effect, the body interprets a supportive touch as “I’ll share the load.” (source)
Couples that touch each other more prove more satisfaction in their marriage and a stronger relationship in their life.
As the beginning scenario, even just a small touch can change your entire day and rekindle the embers of love in your marriage.
So go ahead, lovingly reach out and touch your spouse. Watch the transformation!