Beyoncé, Ne-Yo and a slew of other artists have written anthems glorifying the single woman. It has thus become increasingly trendy for women to claim independence. From what though? The United States won that battle many years ago over Great Britain folks. If you are single in the 21st century it is expected that you take care of yourself once you move out of your parents home. So why now are we now commending women for not needing men?
The main differentiator between society today and days past is that we are waiting until later in life to settle down. People focus on their careers and establishing themselves before starting a family. So, you are 30 year old woman with a good job and pay your own bills. Why should you be put on a pedestal for that? Congrats you are an adult! Women have overinflated egos because they are achieving goals their moms never did. They didn’t have to. It’s called societal evolution.
Present day, women act like men. They have completely lost sight of their “place”. They hit on men like thirsty teenage boys, take the man out on dates, and give up the cookie on the first opportunity. Men are hunters. Where is the chase? If you are running after him, how long do you think he is going to stick around? If he was truly interested then he would of pursued you. If a man wants to meet you he will make it happen. It doesn't matter how shy he is. This is called survival of the fittest. If he is intrigued after meeting you then he will want to take you out and he will pay for it. If you have to ask him out and pay…Honey he’s just not that into you. Trust me plenty of men have spent their electric bill money to impress a new chic on a date. I don’t encourage this behavior by any means but simply to say- If he is into you he will make it happen.
Procreation: At a certain age with no good prospects on the horizon and a fast ticking biological clock, many women turn to artificial insemination. The idea of a sperm donor is flabbergasting. Children need a father in their lives. Bringing a child into the world with an non-existent male role model is against all rules of nature. So if your daughter ends up making a living on a pole, blame yourself.
Let’s discuss the cooking inadequacies of the modern woman. Since when did it become cute to say you can’t boil water? The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. With a full-time job it is not always feasible to cook an elaborate meal every night. But, by showing him that you have some "wifey" type skills you have just increased your stock.
The main problem with the independent woman is that she is trying so hard to prove she can take care of herself that she runs off every man she meets. Men want to feel needed. It is in their nature to be the provider and protector. All you have to do is play your role as a lady and this behavior will naturally surface. Demand what you expect. If he doesn’t want to take you to dinner than move on. He is not the one for you. Don’t lower your standards for physical attraction.
In no way am I suggesting that we resort back to the 1950's and be seen and not heard. However, at some point you have to ask yourself, "Is my need to prove I don't need a man keeping me from happiness?"