How do you identify yourself? Do you recognize the person looking back at you from the mirror or are you hiding behind a façade? Are you putting out a clear message, one that is true to self or is your energy contradictive? If you are not sure of who you are, how can you expect others to honor you? To know you (what you are about and what you want) is to embrace and confidently assert the essence of you into this world.
A knowledgeable college instructor shared this insight with my Group Therapy class, “You figure out your identity by assessing what you need and you do not need. What you want and do not want. And, what you will reject as unacceptable."
Sometimes we find out what we need through a series of bad choices. Hindsight teaches us through consequences. You might say, “I know what not to do because that was a bad experience!” Sometimes we find out what we need when things we thought were necessary are taken from us. Somehow we persevere.
As you mature, most people understand the difference between needs and wants. The aging process gifts the value of clarity. And, as the materialistic wants dissolve maturity grants an authentic lifestyle. As you shed unnecessary stuff, simplicity uncovers a path to purpose.
Living with purpose aligns you. This realization is a game stopper. Suddenly you engage positivity and you remove yourself from anything that is toxic. Why, because toxicity doesn’t serve any purpose to you; it is unacceptable and you deserve better than this!
Your identity is the “collective aspect” of the recognizable you. And, this is someone you are proud to look at in the mirror.