Mother’s Day is right around the corner. If you’re stumped about what to give mom this year, have no fear. The perfect Mother’s Day gift doesn’t cost a fortune and is quite easy to pull off. So, what do hardworking and sometimes under appreciated moms really want for Mother’s Day this year? Is it expensive flowers or jewelry? Dads, you might be surprised what moms REALLY want this year (and every year, for that matter).
Mother’s Day is the one day of the year when moms are thrown a morsel of thanks for all they do throughout the year. Today’s moms must wear many hats. They’re dragon slayers, taxi cab drivers, protectors, teachers, homework helpers, advocates, cheerleaders, seamstresses, planners, shoppers, nurses, maids and chefs. Plus, many hold down part-time or full-time jobs. That’s quite a load – even for Super Moms.
So, what does a busy mom really, really want on Mother’s Day? Listen up, dads. What they really want is nothing. To be exact, they want time to do nothing. They crave time out from their daily grind to recharge their batteries so that they can be Wonder Moms the other 364 days of the year. Mothers simply want some time to themselves to do what they want and when they want on Mother’s Day.
Does this make them bad mothers? Not in the least. Moms cherish family time, but they also need “me time.” Their own need for privacy often gets overlooked in the whirlwind of daily life. There simply isn’t enough time in the day to catch up on reading, watch mindless television, or partake in a favorite hobby in complete solitude. When busy moms somehow manage to carve out a few minutes of precious personal time, they are often interrupted with a barrage of questions like…
- “Mom, where is my jacket?”
- “Mom, what’s for dinner?”
- "Mom, I need a poster for my science project that’s due tomorrow and I haven’t even started it.”
- "Honey, have you seen my keys (wallet, lunch, report, laptop...)?”
- “Mom, my pet snake isn’t in the cage and I think it’s hungry.”
- "Mom, Timmy’s eye is turning black and blue, but I swear that it was an accident.”
Moms know the drill all too well. On a normal basis, free time for busy moms is as scarce as water in the Mojave Desert during a drought. It just doesn’t exist. So dads, here’s a unique gift idea that will bring a huge smile to mom’s face this Mother’s Day. Help mom to do nothing this year. Tell the kids in advance that mom is free to do as she pleases and is in charge of her own schedule.
Why not kick off Mother’s Day with breakfast in bed? On her tray, place a paperback from mom’s favorite author. This simple gesture will surely result in some brownie points. Is there a movie that mom has been dying to see that doesn’t involve animation or the word Disney? Surprise mom with a pair of tickets and tell her to invite another overworked mother.
Is laundry piling up? On Mother’s Day, start a load, put it in the laundry, fold it, and then actually put it away. Yep, all four steps must be completed. It’s the gift that says, “We got this.” While you and the kids are handling the mountain of laundry, tell mom to go take a nice hot bath. Better yet, run the bath for mom and hang a sign on the door that says, “Do not disturb!” Light a few scented candles and let mom soak away her stress for an hour or two with no interruptions. That’s the key, dads. No interruptions.
Here’s the kicker. If you give your busy mom the freedom to do what she wants this Mother’s Day, she’ll probably love the sentiment, but gravitate towards spending the day with you. A few quick, inexpensive and caring gestures will go a long way to ensure a happy wife, happy life for at least a few weeks.