2 Corinthians 6:15-18 (NKJV)
And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will dwell in them and walk among them. I will be their God, and they shall be My people.” Therefore “Come out from among them and be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, and I will receive you.” “I will be a Father to you, and you shall be My sons and daughters, says the LORD Almighty.”
Father’s Day is met with mixed reviews for many people. Men will file into church today to be brow beat about their responsibility to care for their children and be that “man” who is there for their kids. There will be “dads” who are honored by their children today and those who will feel the pain of separation deep inside their heart. A twinge of regret for those who have made mistakes unsure of how to begin the journey or long way back to reconciliation choosing to remain a safe distance from potential criticism. There are also children out there who have longed for a father to honor on this day. For those kids, mom is both parents wrapped in one. This is never enough! God made a man and woman who He gave the ability to create new life and produce children. Even those who might profess perfect fathers must honestly admit this is not the case. Children who know grace are usually best suited to offer it to the man who raised them but not until they have matured enough to experience the reality of failure and imperfection that is human nature. Today – God is about to change your mind about your dad! He is going to release you from bondage to the one who got away. The Lord is about to blow your mind with His Unfailing Love so that everyone who reads this will be able to happily celebrate Father’s Day.
“I will be a Father to you, and you will be My Sons and Daughters,” says the Lord Almighty. Why does this feel like a pat on the head or a quick hug meant to shrug off the pain, separation, rejection and abandonment of lost earthly fathers? What comfort is there in a Heavenly Father who we cannot see, hear or feel? How will He provide the love and support that I need when I am all alone? What good is He when I want to learn to ride a bike or have someone cheering me on at the big game? To the unbeliever, the only father that they will ever have is their natural father. These poor men bear the weight and responsibility of God in the life of their child. The Eternity placed in the heart (Ecclesiastes 3:11) of their children with no place to put it is invested in mere mortal men who are imperfect and just as weak and powerless as the ones who they are raising. The faith given by measure (Romans 12:2) is looking for a solid foundation with good soil to grow and prosper. Until God the Father is revealed, men called dad are given this position by their offspring. People naturally produce life but only the Lord can produce supernatural life through His Spirit. We are inclined to place great expectation on certain people as a direct result of the promises, plan and prosperity pressing to burst forth placing unrealistic expectation on others until we meet Jesus Christ. Salvation changes everything or does it. It should but people are inclined to still hold people accountable in their life until the Truth comes out. Nobody is perfect, but we can perfect our relationship with God the Father and our dad!
Isaiah 9:6-7 (NKJV)
For unto us a Child is born unto us a Son is given; and the government will be upon His shoulder. And His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Of the increase of His government and peace there will be no end, upon the throne of David and over His kingdom, to order it and establish it with judgment and justice
From that time forward, even forever. The zeal of the LORD of hosts will perform this.
Jesus Christ has been given the title of “Everlasting Father” among other things. This is neatly hidden between many other attributes that we focus and maybe even taken for granted by the person who represents the position in our natural life. The truth is that there are no perfect dads should not take us by surprise. Look at the dads in the Bible. Even the most influential of them made mistakes, yet God still blessed them. Noah got drunk. Abraham had an illegitimate child. Jesse completely underestimated his son, David while Joseph’s dad completely spoiled him rotten until his siblings hated him. There is no such thing as a non-dysfunctional family so forget about it. If life was perfect, we would not need Jesus Christ or any of His Grace, Mercy and Love.
Romans 8:14-17 (NKJV)
For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.” The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs—heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ, if indeed we suffer with Him, that we may also be glorified together.
If you have asked Jesus Christ to be your Savior and Lord accepting His Spirit to live and breathe inside of you, then you have also received the Spirit of Adoption to become a Child of God. You now are set to inherit the Kingdom of God releasing the hold of this world on you. You are free to love your Father in Heaven and serve Him as an obedient child. You can expect Him to take care of you. The Lord will provide everything that you need. (Matthew 6:8-14) If you will strive to remain in right-standing with God by living in the Grace of Jesus Christ, you will seek first His Kingdom and He will meet your every need. (Matthew 6:31-33)The problem is when we call on the Name of the Lord but do not accept the Spirit of Adoption that comes with it. Such a spirit releases people from our expectation as it is fully reserved for God’s Will for our life. This includes your natural father. We are now called to be the Light of the World and glorify our Father in Heaven which raises our thinking including mind, will and emotions to love and forgive. This will change your relationship with your father (whether present, absent or estranged) for the better and set you free to experience the true love of an Everlasting Father.
Matthew 10:29-30 (NKJV)
Are not two sparrows sold for a copper coin? And not one of them falls to the ground apart from your Father’s will. But the very hairs of your head are all numbered.
Psalm 139:13-16 (NKJV)
For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret, and skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, the days fashioned for me, when as yet there were none of them.
It goes without saying that our mom and dad were not the only two parties present when we were created, God was right there as well. Now God formed us inside our mother’s womb. He saw our substance (faith) and He wrote all the days of our life at that moment. This is the Father’s Will for our life which means that whoever our earthly father is they were included in this plan. It doesn’t matter how good or how terrible of a father they are or were – your earthly dad is God’s Will for your life. Deep breath while we let that sink in. Now who can we be mad at since the person who we have been harboring hurt, disappointment, anger or resentment against is clearly not at fault. Our life is according to God’s Plan even when we decide to deviate from it – God’s Will for our life is still written on our heart. Misplaced expectation has caused this generation not only to have a large population of out of touch, out of reach and out of service fathers, but many hurt and despondent children as well. You are not a mistake because God does not make them. You are not a bad decision because you were created by the wisdom of God and not some natural reproduction process. The difference is made by faith. Without faith, our relationships in life are hopeless filled with dissension, division and divorce. My husband is might man of God who did not have a good father figure but has become an excellent father because Jesus Christ lives in him. His natural instinct could not be that of his father’s attitude and actions who was a man in bondage to so many things. Christ set my husband free from the pain of being raised essentially fatherless changing his heart and mind back to his children and breaking the generational curse of abandonment by the Spirit of Adoption. Do you feel like God sold you short in the dad department? Let me ask you another questions is your idea and image of having a natural dad become a god in your life? Is it an excuse not to try to do better or be better? God created you with a special inheritance that is not impacted in the slightest by the parenting skills of your father or mother. It is fully accepted by faith in becoming a son or daughter of God. Grace removes all excuses. Accepting God’s Will for your life means releasing your natural father from being perfect and putting your full expectation in the Love of God who is the One True Father of all. (I Corinthians 8:5-6)
Proverbs 30:11-13 (NKJV)
There is a generation that curses its father, and does not bless its mother. There is a generation that is pure in its own eyes, yet is not washed from its filthiness. There is a generation—oh, how lofty are their eyes! And their eyelids are lifted up.
When Adam sinned, dads were no longer perfect. Why do we expect more of our fathers than we do ourselves? This generation has no respect for authority. Parents are disrespected by their children. Sin has become rampant and love has grown cold just as the Lord predicted. We have to make a change and it begins at home.
Matthew 10:34-38 (NKJV)
“Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword. For I have come to ‘set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law’; and ‘a man’s enemies will be those of his own household.’ He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me.”
We are the Temple of the Living God who house the Spirit of Adoption. Jesus knew that His Great Love would cause some problems. It broke tradition. Grace changed everything. We could no longer hold others accountable as we were set free from the penalty of death for our sins. Therefore, we must forgive those who do not live up to our expectations because our full expectation belongs to Jesus Christ. We are to take up our cross and follow Him which means releasing others from responsibility for our life. Today we must flow in the ministry of reconciliation and extend the love, grace, mercy and forgiveness that Christ has given us to all the other people in our life who have let us down, hurt us or abandon us along the way – beginning with our father. Why? The father is the head of the family whether he chooses to assume that role or not. As we forgive our father, it will flow through our life right down to our enemies just as the Lord has instructed. (Matthew 5:44) Be set free today! There is always freedom in forgiveness as His Unfailing Love reaches farther in the depths of our heart than ever before.
Ephesians 3:14-21 (NKJV)
For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height— to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.
Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.
Now before you allow those arguments and excuses to rise within you as to why you cannot and will not forgive the man given the title of father in your life, please understand that it is not up for debate. If you desire the blessings and promises of God the Father, you must forgive others including those who don’t deserve it because truth is we do not deserved to be saved. Everyone struggles to forgive the heinous abusers and find it hard to think that there is enough of God’s Grace for them too, but there is. Forgiveness is not about them, it’s about you being set free to experience the complete and perfect love of God reserved just for you His Precious Children. He is the Perfect Dad, Everlasting Father who will be your Prince of Peace if you expect Him to be that and so much more.
I Corinthians 8:5-6 (NKJV)
For even if there are so-called gods, whether in heaven or on earth (as there are many gods and many lords), yet for us there is one God, the Father, of whom are all things, and we for Him; and one Lord Jesus Christ, through whom are all things, and through whom we live.