Telling us something we knew all along the New York Times is here to let us know that children handle divorce better when it is uncontested. See Article here.
The author of the article Ruth Bettleheim a family and marriage therapist cites some interesting research showing that children of divorced families are no worse off than those of intact families. In fact the studies show children of divorced couples may in fact be more resilent from enduring the process of divorce.
The younger the children are in the process the better they handle a divorce until adulthood when no one handles anything very well.
Think about it.