Suicide skyrockets during the third and fourth week of January as a result of people making New Year's resolutions that they can't keep. For example, if you or someone you know needs a job and resolves to get one in January and then it doesn't happen. My advice: Don't pressure anyone. I realize that it's tempting to pressure your unemployed husband to get a job, or to pressure your teenager who's flunking half of his classes in high school, but don't do it. They are aware of their problems and they don't need a reminder, and all nagging does is put a wedge between you and in the worst case scenario they could kill themselves.
If your partner is lying to you about his job search than do it for him. I'm serious. Employers won't know that you filled out the application on their company's website. Many of them won't allow applicants to call the human resources department to follow up on their submission. When one responds to your application than you'll need your husband to participate. With that said, don't apply for bad jobs on his behalf because that's not helpful and it will also depress him even further. Bad jobs are those that pay minimum wage or straight commission, or offer light part time hours that are in constant flux.
If you're kid is flunking out of school than become his or her tutor; schedule study time everyday for the two of you to do his or her homework together.
The unfortunate thing about being a woman is that everyone else relies on us for support and we have no one to rely on. In other words, our boyfriends/husbands and our kids depend on us on a daily basis to make their lives work, and for constant emotional support, and our partners need sex every other night, and while we do everything we can for them they don't do anything for us in return. Nothing has changed since 1970. It's exactly the same except that now women have full time jobs. With that said, tomorrow morning when New Year's Day arrives and you feel tempted to tell people that your resolution is to lose 50 pounds, don't tell them because the last thing that you need are reminders about your diet. If you need a partner to help you stay on track than go to a real coach at a weight loss clinic such as Weight Watchers or the gym because they know how to handle it, and I guarantee that they won't nag you or make you feel guilty because they know that those strategies don't work.
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