It seems that many couples have given up on their marriage vows or that they are not important . When a couple gets married they vow to stay together through pretty much anything imaginable. They vow to stay together wether rich or poor, for better or worse, in sickness and in health, till death do them apart.
So why is it that many couples these days seem to give up at the first sign of trouble in the marriage? Did they mean it when they made those vows or did they just go through the ceremony for some other reason or purpose?
Most likely they did mean it at the time but something happened along the way to change their mind. If you are having issues in your marriage, know that you can turn it around if you are both willing to work on it.
If you do work at it and change things around, the benefits can be amazing. However divorces are usually messy and hurt everyone involved, especially your children if you have any.
Usually if a relationship is in trouble both partners are hurting in one way or another. In order for the marriage to change and grow, the spouse need to stop actively hurting each other first. So if your spouse is telling you that something you are doing is hurtful to them, don't try to justify it, etc. just stop doing it! And vise versa.
You also need to work at actively becoming closer. Have date nights where you can have fun together, laugh together, etc. and watch those walls break down. On these date nights focus on having fun and don't use this time to discuss any serious issues. Or your closeness building time could quickly turn into distance building time!
Don't give up too soon. Your victory could be just around the corner. Wouldn't it be odd for someone doing a 5K race to give up and quit with the finish line in sight? Would you drive for miles and miles to get to your destination just to give up when it's right around the corner? So stay in the race and continue to press toward that goal of a happy healthy marriage that is easily maintained. It's well worth it!