Do you think of your spouse throughout your day? I don’t mean daydreaming about your love for him or her, or about when you’ll see each other again, or even about what you did together last night.
No, I’m talking about the mundane tasks throughout your day that tell your spouse — with or without his or her recognition — that you were thinking about him or her. For example, do you replace the toilet paper roll when you empty it? If you do, that’s a sign of thinking of your mate. Your spouse may not even notice you did that, but he or she would certainly notice if you didn’t.
Other examples are picking up your clothes instead of dropping them on the floor, cleaning up your dishes, replacing the checkbook when you use the last check, putting the toilet seat down, and making extra food for supper so you can send some with your spouse the next day for lunch.
All of these mundane, everyday tasks show consideration for your other half. And you know the famous saying: “It’s the thought that counts” — though in this case, it’s the action that follows the thought that really counts.
So what little thing can you do today to show your spouse that you care about him or her? Look for opportunities to actively think of your spouse. You’re sure to find them.
Another well-known saying is, “It’s the little things that count.” Maybe these two sayings should be combined: “It’s the thought and doing the little things that count.”
*If you're having difficulty thinking good thoughts about your spouse, you may want to seek help from a professional marriage counselor.