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The Greatest Compliment You Can Give a Man Is Your Appreciation

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What do men want? Learn the magic key to getting more out of your relationships with men. Express appreciation to your man and reap the benefits!

1. Express appreciation to your date by using indirect comments such as, "The food here is amazing. I love my steak, its so delicious!" "This movie was hilarious, thanks for picking it!" "What a beautiful night to be out on a date, its just perfect!" Using indirect compliments on men work best and are the most effective. He'll feel as though he cooked the steak, directed the movie and orchestrated the weather! And most importantly, he'll want to do even more to please you.

2. Stay away from using direct compliments with the word YOU, such as, "YOU are so smart, I'm impressed you found this restaurant." They just don't work as well! They can be viewed by men as being a form of insincere flattery.

3. Express your positive reactions and greatly minimize your negative ones, especially during the first three to six months of dating. If you don't like something, give zero comment. If the movie was boring, don't say anything. Focus instead on what was enjoyable on the date!

Men live to make women happy. They want to see that their efforts are making you smile, are making you happier in some way! When they get indication of this, they want to do even more to please you. When they sense you can't be pleased (even by seemingly small things, like when you say you thought the movie was boring, or your steak tasted bad and you do this consistently), they will look elsewhere to a woman who can be pleased. Expressing your appreciation is a really simple thing, but one that pays great dividends in your relationships with men.

It's also worth mentioning the topic of gifts. When you receive a gift from a man that you don't really like, do you ask for the receipt to exchange it? Do you tell him you wished he had gotten you red roses instead of pink ones?

No! You accept the gift graciously. You smile, say thank you and tell him how much you love it, or how happy it made you. Even if it's something you dislike, keep that to yourself. Men watch you in the beginning to see how you react to their gifts (even if its something very small). They also want to see how well you take care of what they give you. One client of mine put the flowers her date gave her in her trunk and forgot them there. When he opened the trunk a few days later, he found the dead flowers. Yikes! You can guess what happened next. She never got flowers again.

When you can appreciate what this man can uniquely provide for you, then he will feel needed and will want to do more to please you. If what he provides for you is not enough, then look elsewhere. The first three months of dating are a time when you observe what this man can provide (not material things per say) and see if that is in line with what you want.

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