The first rule of living together is compromise. If you’re picking out a roof over your head, location is a compromise. Choosing new furniture and décor is definitely a compromise. One wouldn’t think a couple could argue over the placement of the kitchen trash can but sadly, it happens. Getting used to the fact that your daily thought processes include another person can be a bit tricky. Similar to a relationship, cohabitation is a balance of two personalities and open communication is vital to living together peacefully. At least it should be if you’re moving in for all the right reasons. Here are just a few of the wrong ones.
Women’s emotions can spark a whirlwind of sudden activity and contrary to popular beliefs living together is basically the same level as marriage. If the relationship has barely hit a three month mark and you’re seriously contemplating sharing the bills, step away from the throes of passion and consider the pros and cons. Decide if this is the best time or if your relationship requires more growth. Living together prematurely without complete honesty can wreck havoc on heartfelt feelings.
Many have moved in together due to financial necessity. Someone no longer has a place to stay and a shining knight appears to right the wrong. This scenario is a common one and the imbalance is the root cause of countless break ups. One makes more than the other, forming rifts over the monthly cable bill and that new pair of shoes. Resentment is quick to appear when someone feels obligated to stay in a relationship due to finances. If there is a financial imbalance within the relationship, make sure the arrangement is agreeable to both sides. A straightforward conversation is necessary even before skimming the online housing section.
Coming home to an empty house is difficult as well as not sharing your life with that special someone. However, loneliness isn’t a reason to live together. A dependent living situation is a precursor for smothering your mate as you rely more on their attentions than the outside world. Instead of using a new relationship as a crutch, pick up a hobby and fill your time with other diversions.
Living together is a critical step in a relationship and both parties need to be aware of their own individual half of a whole entity. Even if you take everything in to consideration and concede on every difference of opinion, there will always be bumps in the road. Come together on common ground instead of sacrificing who you truly are. The two basic requirements of a relationship, love and communication, will help ease the difficult process of compromise.