As we enter into February, even gamers cannot deny that this is a month for love. Between the frigid weather perfect for cuddling up to our loved ones and that day that singles around the world dread, the second month of the year is just teeming with warm, fuzzy feelings. In honor of the month of love, I did something a little different that I swore I'd never do - I mixed business and personal. This months gamer of the month is no random stranger to me; she's the woman I wake up next to every day; a gal known to the online world as Bebe.
For this edition of Gamer of the Month, we're going to get a different perspective on gaming. We're going to find out what it's like to be the wife of a self-proclaimed gamer and how her idea of gaming changed because of it.
The Gamer's Ghost: When you play, do you have a preferred system to play on?
Bebe: The Wii is probably the easiest to use for someone like me (with little gaming experience) but I prefer the Xbox. I have my own controller that lights up all pretty when I do things. I’m sort of a sucker for girly and / or unique game accessories.
TGG: How would you describe yourself as a gamer?
B: Easily frustrated.
TGG: What games would stack up to being your favorite?
TGG: What's your idea of the perfect game?
B: Something easy going. I don’t like too many missions, or specific things I must do to get to the next part. I like to wander around and possibly get into trouble.
TGG: How would you say video games measure up to Hollywood movies? From what you've played and what you've seen being played, do you think the two industries have a lot in common?
B: Games today are unbelievable. I don’t play anything that extensive, but I see what you play and its impressive to see how big production games are today. I think they have a lot in common, obviously a ton of work, planning and detail goes into them. Its interesting to see how games have changed since 1999 or 2000, when I received the first PlayStation for Christmas.
TGG: Were you into video games prior to this relationship?
B: I knew less about them and didn’t really care to learn more. You know my capabilities and are usually sure to reserve something that I would have an easy enough time figuring out or just enjoy. That helps! It gets me to want to play and take part in something you like.
TGG: Now, let's get a little personal. What's the most difficult part about being married to a full time gamer and not being one yourself?
B: I guess I wish I knew what you were talking about a little more when I read your reviews and news articles! And I don’t so much share your enthusiasm for most big releases....
TGG: Are there any perks in being in a relationship with a gamer? What do you find to be the most interesting part about being so close to someone that considers themselves involved in the gaming industry?
B: You’re good with your hands.
TGG: Have you ever felt yourself to be a game widow? If so, how do you cope with that feeling?
B: Not at all.
TGG: What advice do you want to give to those that can't stand that their significant other is a gamer or finds themselves falling second to gaming?
B: For being married to someone so involved in the gaming world, I never feel ignored. I think that’s what can make people intolerant of gamers. But its all about compromise for both parties. We have our “separate together” time where I work on my stuff while you play and it works out nicely. Everyone needs time to do the things they enjoy. It makes for a better relationship in any circumstance.
TGG: And just because you're the first gal interviewed for Gamer of the Month, do you think women are no more than sexual objects in games?
B: Well, I think the balance between male and female characters is still lacking, but I would say that things have changed from what they were. I remember when "Grand Theft Auto" first came out and it was this big shocking thing that the only female characters were prostitutes and the main objective was simply to rape and pillage; nowadays, though, there are more kick ass female characters represented. If those characters happen to be wearing minimal clothing, so be it.