In my previous article about the benefits of sharing fitness as a couple, the dominant theme was how to get more quality time together. One of the most important things you can do to keep your relationship strong and secure is to make sure your lady knows that you don't overlook the little things. How is that done?
Certainly not with the homey Benjamin.
Now, you might say to yourself "She should know I love her." You're 50% right. By choosing to affirm your decision to love her and be in a relationship with her, your love is a given. However, once you reach a certain age, you have to recognize that women need more than that. They need to feel desired. They want to be pursued. They want to be courted. They want to know that you're paying attention to the maintenance of both of you within the relationship.
Most men think that they have to show appreciation by digging into their wallets. We believe that a surprise bouquet of flowers delivered to her job is the key to her smile. We tend to cater to our women based on the things we can provide with money because that's convenient. We treat our relationship as if it has an expense account. The reality, though, is the easiest way to show appreciation to your woman is as simple as saying thank you.
"Thank you" is a nicety that's starting to fade in modern society. Telling your woman "thank you babe" will change her entire mood. If she's having a rough day, a text of 140 characters telling her how you appreciate her will have her feeling like she found her Boaz. Looking at society as a whole, the roles held by women are quite thankless. Mothers don't hear sentiments of gratitude outside of Mother's Day and her birthday. Around the office, your lady's hard work goes generally unnoticed and unrewarded. So her relationship with you is the one arena is which she puts forth significant effort with the expectation of reciprocity.
People have let their own sense of entitlement cloud their perspective. Nobody owes you anything, not even love. Love is a special connection that has to nurtured all of the time. Love happens by actions and the reiteration of each person's commitment. However, just because women give love more openly than we do doesn't mean they don't deserve to be acknowledged for doing so. When a woman knows you appreciate what she adds to your life, there's nothing she won't do for you.