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Marriage isn't the scary word.
There are certain words you should never mention in your online dating profile. Believe it or not "marriage" is not one of the highest ones on that list. Or at least it's not the highest M word.
What is?
What word is going to scare away people? (Including the very people who you're trying to attract?)
Monogamy.
Weird, isn't it? You're writing your profile and you think, "This is a great quality for a relationship! I should include it." Unfortunately, what you're saying by including it is "I've had problems with cheating in the past."
Unless you're really lucky, you've probably had to deal with cheating in your romantic life either as the cheater or the cheat-ee. Mentioning it in your dating profile (even in this roundabout way) is not a good idea.
What should you write instead? Check out The Daily Fix at Online Dating Profiler to see how to say what you want the right way!
Comments
I couldn't agree more! Back when I was single and looking, when I saw someone include some variation on "must be monogamous" I kept going. I felt insulted that I wouldn't be given the benefit of the doubt, plus it screamed "jaded" to me. Right or wrong, I looked elsewhere.
The same goes for "my kids come first". I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that they do, if you'll give me the benefit of the doubt that I'm aware of this going into a first date.
Thats a really good point "M.Ray Robinson" the (Kids come first) comment.
It does speak that they person writing that had an X who wanted to be put ahead of said kids. But you should give everyone the benefit of the doubt. It is a bit insulting isn't it.
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