Women and men deal with break ups in completely opposite ways. Men generally take no time in getting back in the dating pool. Their friends first order of business is getting them to the gentleman’s club and helping a stripper pay for the college tuition for classes she has yet to enroll in. You are the last thing on their mind as they make it rain. No sooner have they changed their relationship status to single do they have 10 ex’s including their high school sweetheart wanting to “catch up” all of sudden. They can stay out late as they want with no questions asked. Life is great!
Even if it was the woman who initiated the break up, it is still an emotionally taxing situation. Either you are drowning your sorrows in Ben and Jerry’s or Moscato. If you are Taylor Swift cue the next multi-platinum hit. Girls have to talk about it. It is necessary to post every break up quote we can find on Pinterest. Our friends need to know that we are a survivor. If it was MySpace we would change our profile song to the Chaka Khan. They also need to know that he lost the best thing he ever had and exactly how karma is going to break his back. Female friends also find it relevant to get us out the house. Spending happy hour with margaritas, chips/salsa and endless ranting about the dirty dog always end in tears. It’s easy to forget that alcohol is a depressant. Even worse is the drunk texting that brings the night to a conclusion.
So, the next step is getting back in the game. Let’s explore the realm of dating possibilities.
The Blind Date: Generally this is with a good on paper guy. He has a great job and is probably a divorced friend of someone’s husband. The problem is he is boring as hell and you end up suffering through the dull conversation wondering why you thought being single in your 30’s was a good idea.
Online Dating: This sounds perfect. Input your preferences and viola the computer spits our Mr. Right. Note to self: next time look in the background of the pic. If you had paid more attention you would have noticed by the Motorola flip phone he was holding that his profile pic is 15 years old.
Social media has increased our reach of people but has stifled our organic people skills. Texting has replaced conversations. It is easier to repost a quote than to express our own original thoughts. You can be whoever you want to be online. People have forgotten how to really socialize and interact in the first person. It is possible to go make it through the day without ever uttering a word. Talk about a breakdown in communication. Sitting at home playing on Facebook and various sites is easier to do than actually getting dressed. Breaking up is easier than fighting for a relationship. Modern society and convenience has rendered us dependent on finding an “easy button” for everything.
There is no recipe for success in dealing with a break up. You need great friends with a lot of patience as well as one who is going to tell you to fix your mascara because your ex just walked into the bar with a tall, thin blonde. Pull yourself together and never let him see you sweat sister!
“People say everything happens for a reason. These people are usually women. And these women are usually sorting through a break up. It seems that men can get out of a relationship without even a good-bye, but apparently women have to either get married or learn something. Why are we in such a rush to move from confused to Confucius? Do we search for 'lessons' to lessen the pain?” ~Carrie Bradshaw