There are a lot of people who talk about being disciples for Christ. I come accross several each day. The problem that I encounter, is the question if one is really a disciple or not. Just because someone 'believes' in Jesus, does not make them a true disciple.
There is so much more to being an actual disciple of the Lord. The good news is, Jesus understands that we are not sure how to do things just right, so he explains it to us quite easily. The difficulty then becomes, not understanding how to do it, but actually being willing to do it once you actually understand the task.
Luke 14:25-27 begins the instructions of true discipleship. The verse states this, "A large crowd was following Jesus. He turned around and said to them; 'If you want to be my disciple, you must hate everyone else by comparison- your father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters- yes even your own life. Otherwise, you cannot be my disciple. And if you do not carry your own cross and follow me, you cannot be my disciple" (NLT).
Ouch. The meaning of this verse is very difficult to comprehend. It makes sense logically, but it does not make it an easy thing to do. Being a disciple means if you have a choice between your wife, kids, and Christ, that you must be wiling to choose Christ. In the event that you make a promise or a commitment to your job and you see a man that needs help, your priority is not your job, it is the man that needs help. Even if he is a drunken fool, he is still your priority- if you are a true disciple.
The fact that we are supposed to carry our cross to follow Christ, means that no matter what our problems are, Christ comes first. We have no choice but to take our hurt, pain, struggles, weaknesses, anything, in order to be with Christ. That is not an easy thing to do. Many of us like to think that we would be willing to sacrifice anything for God. However, the question that you must ask yourself is, would I be willing to give up my money, house, family, lovers, EVERYTHING in order to do what Jesus wants us to do? Not that Christ wants us to be miserable and unhappy, but it is more about a mind frame. The willingness to sacrifice your happiness for Christ is what discipleship is. It is then that you will experience true, real, happiness!