In God is a Woman: Dating Disasters, I discuss different types of men and women. I also spend a lot of time telling people to heed red flags. (Many dating issues, including making the same bad choices repeatedly--i.e. falling into bad dating cycles--occur because red flags are ignored.) Marni Batista, founder of LA-based Dating with Dignity, invented the D-Factor Assessment to help women find the right man via paying attention to red flags and considering their own true desires and attractions when it comes to men. Here is a brief interview I recently did with her:
Marni, thanks for taking the time to speak with me. How long have you been using the D-Factor Assessment?
My pleasure. Thank you for giving me the opportunity! I have been using the D-factor Assessment in my practice for almost one year, however the assessment was originally created in the mid 1990s as a tool to train executives interested in building leadership skills.
Can you share some success stories?
I have had one client who took the assessment prior to enrolling in a class I offered... in just 6 weeks her energy levels went up .7 percent -- and while not a HUGE number, the young woman reported huge shifts in her overall joy, happiness, peace and positivity. This assessment is very powerful, in that with just a .5% increase in total resonating energy levels, clients report FEELING much better. The assessment is typically taken twice per year.
How did you develop the MANimal Species?
I developed the MANimal species after becoming a "professional dater" for six years between 2004-2010. In the process of doing research to write a book, I was able to typify a males' MANvolution as he progresses into becoming "ready" to be in a long-term relationship. Interestingly, I was also then able to take d-factor assessments of the MANimal types and am now able to predict which types of female energy profiles are attractive to specific MANimals, and which MANimals find which female energy types attractive.
How and why did you become a dating expert?
I have always been obsessed with boys. And, I have always been a teacher. I was a fitness instructor and then went to school to earn a Masters in Education. After my divorce in 2004 to a man I was married to for 17 years, I was involved in a relationship that resulted in a horrific break-up. In pulling myself up off the floor, devastated from yet another destroyed relationship, I began to study men, relationship and dating in the hopes to finally master the mysteries of dating, relationship and love. It was through this work that I created a 10-step process to MANifest love of Self and Others I used to ultimately find a loving, healthy relationship. I also studied the art of professional coaching, and became a certified professional life coach after being trained by the Hoffman Institute as a Facilitator for Los Angeles area Graduates.
If you could offer my readers one piece of dating advice, what would it be?
It is critical to recognize what men you typically attract and, if they seem to be the men you GET, rather then the men you WANT, then it is time to begin to stop playing the blame game and begin to understand what you must do to break free of your romantic ruts. Once you are aware of the patterns that have been keeping you "stuck," you can begin to make the changes necessary and learn how to date with intention and dignity.
What is the biggest dating mistake women make?
Dating from a place of lack; that is to say that they act as if this guy -- who may be better than the last jerk they dated -- is the last man on earth and settle for crumbs when they truly deserve CAKE!
Thank you again, Marni, for taking the time and providing this insight. To take the D-Factor Assessment yourself or to just learn more about it, check it out at WhatsMyDFactor.com.
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