The consequence-free break-up

The consequence-free break-up

The consequence-free break-up is a myth, however, not all break-ups have bad consequences.  That is the case at least for one of the parties some of the time.

One thing that is difficult for many to understand is how painful a break-up can be for the person actually choosing the break-up when their partner does not want it, or at least will not admit that they want to split.

Being the bad guy or gal

It is never easy to be the bad guy or gal as the case may be.  It isn't even easy to give up that which you may be comfortable with and enjoy in a relationship, simply because the other parts of it are not to your liking.

This is one reason why so many people wait until they have another relationship at the ready before they actually take the plunge and end their current romantic arrangement.  This is, however, a very unloving act in and of itself.

Make a comparison

There are many consequences which result from a break-up, however, when looking at break-ups comparitively speaking, it is good to recognize what actually is, from the long-term perspective, the consequence-free break-up.

The reason this is important is that it may help an individual to stop beating themselves up over the decision to break up with their mate.  There are from a very broad perspective, two basic types of break-ups.

The first is the break-up between two individuals who have sworn their love and devotion to one another and their intent to co-exist for the rest of their life on this planet as romantic partners who are to be wed.

The second is the break-up between two parties who have at this point developed absolutely no intention whatsoever of marrying the other person.  Even in this second scenario, the break-up process is often extremely painful for both people involved.

It is important, in this instance, for both people to recognize that nothing more than their ego and schedule is actually being altered or affected by this break-up.  This, is actually not a break-up at all as so many overdramatize it to be.  It is an expected parting of ways.  What is difficult is the timing of the fulfillment of this expectation.

The ego

The painful part of this is that for the one being broken up with, they experience a severely bruised ego when realizing that someone would prefer to spend their time away from them, rather than with them.  The concept that the other person may have considered that someone else out in the world could better entertain them in any way, shape or form is a big hit to the ego and that is nearly always misconstrued as horrible pain.

For the one who is doing the breaking up, they also are feeling the loss of those times when they would really like to have a companion around, but may not for a while now.  In addition to this, they may suffer a great deal of pain over the concept of causing suffering to the other person.

This is why it is so important to remind yourself in this instance of the fact that they were never planning to marry you anyway.  The other party had already rejected the concept of spending the rest of their life with you.  They had already been plotting that some day they should find someone who is a better match for them than you.  Ultimately, you have done absolutely nothing more than speed up their process of beginning that search for their right "one."

Enjoy your life

Remember these facts and let the pain pass away from you .  You will learn to occupy your time with friends, family and fun activities, if not another romantic interest after your current/past relationship is over.

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