Real Housewives of New Jersey co-star Melissa Gorga’s guide to marriage book has released.
The reviews are horrible and reference caveman-like tendencies that include marital rape. While Melissa Gorga is a college girl, perhaps women's studies hadn't hit her neck of the woods while she was studying.
Selections from Gorga’s book reminded me of the Real Housewives of Orange County this season, a show where two of the housewives are engaged. Gretchen and Slade had an engagement ceremony while Tamra and Eddie prepared for the real hitch date.
Tamra and Gretchen’s romances are inspirational for any college girl, or single college graduate hanging on to 35 or more. Tamra and Gretchen are marrying early like the dreamy Cinderella archetype. Tamra is well over 40 and this isn't her first marriage, she has children from previous liaisons. Gretchen wants children and her future husband is already a parent. Still, age does not make Tamra's story any less of a fairy tale.
Tamra's mirror character, Lauri, has returned. Lauri exited the Housewives series with a Princess love story and wedding. The charmer is that Lauri is older than both Gretchen and Tamra. Lauri's dream guy was super loaded, perhaps none to eager to share his wealth or his ego with younger women.
Although it is not clear whether or not her husband Joe Gorga is Melissa Gorga's dream guy, it is clear that Melissa Gorga will do anything not to interfere with her husband's wage earning. It may be a smart business decision, considering Melissa Gorga's on display lifestyle.
Ideally, women who marry over 35 are marrying when their careers are in full bloom. They are entering relationships "as is" with little room to morph or bargain with spouses—especially in the bedroom where a natural rhythm reflects their relationship outside of the bedroom.
Consequently, Melissa Gorga's marriage guide isn't the guide for college women looking to marry. It may not even be the guide for college girls looking to maintain a marriage.
Tamra and Gretchen’s road to successful romances and the altar was not easy. It was tumultuous, tearful and painted with embarrassments.
Tamra learned etiquette tearfully alongside Eddie who admonished her harshly for inappropriate flirting with Vicky’s new Mississippi boyfriend. But it was Simon, Tamra's first husband, who believed Tamra would learn sophisticated behavior with lessons from an instructor.
Gretchen got secretly engaged to Slade. She had a fabulous rooftop engagement event but did not invite her Housewives pals, and nor did she mention the fancy affair. The secret Princess ball was a wonderful act of devotion of Slade, but a terribly snide slight to the ladies.
Collegiate friendships endure parted roads after graduation. Lifestyle, finance, work and romance all factor into the split.
At the Real Housewives of Orange County reunion show, Gretchen's tears were inexplicable. But it's not like any of the housewives on the show know what it means to have a stay-at-home husband. Gretchen did not entertain marriage to Slade until he reconciled debts. Slade got a disc-jockey job and then Gretchen proposed.
But soon after (the big secret engagement ball) Slade lost his radio job.
After Gretchen reached the finish line of the war-filled road to marriage, her housewife colleagues accused her of being a liar.
As long as the housewives girlfriends can prove that Gretchen is a liar, Gretchen will have to wake up to the fact that they are calling her out on her relationship with Slade based upon the relationship she's built with them.
It may not be unlike Gretchen to dump Slade until he lands another job.
After all, Tamra certainly did not tolerate it peacefully when her ex-husband Simon moved from selling Mercedes to dabbling in a margarita business. Before the move, Simon and Tamra were the "it" couple.
As a stable Housewives co-star, Gretchen’s story line remains the same as when audiences were introduced to her and her dying partner/boyfriend Greg--is Gretchen Rossi a gold-digger or real thing?
Gretchen, and other college graduate girls with big paychecks, often out earn their male partners.
Bottom line, those 35 and older college graduates, still single and waiting for Mr. Right, may have to consider marriage with a partner who earns less than she does--or after the marriage find themselves deep inside of a marriage with a husband whose salary is half of what she earns.
One hundred years ago, this surplus of women with healthy incomes was not so.