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The Bizarre World Of A Vanilla Swinger

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Sex, whether we like it or not, is something that sells and it sells like hot cakes. If tracking is done on the most commonly used search terms in Google and other search engines, there is little doubt that sex related topics are perhaps the most sought after. Sex is not the same as it was a few decades ago and it has become more advanced and people have also become unabashed in their sexual behaviors. While there are people who indulge in sex before marriage, after marriage there are others who believe in having sex with more than one partner. There are quite a few others who would like to engage in group sex with their spouses being a part of such sexual orgy.

In this article we will have a look at the term vanilla swinger that is also very much a talked about subject. However, before we understand the prevalence of this kind of sexual behavior it would not be a bad idea to have a better understanding of the term. Put in simple words, this term is about those unusual and bizarre groups of people (both men and women) who derive pleasure in watching others performing sexual acts without they being a part of it. There are some that like to be around it and maybe soft petting but not wanting to participate. there are those that even are new to swinging and may only be interested in a soft swap. The reason a vanilla behavior is considered bizarre and unusual because as a normal human's instinct, when people watch such sexual acts they are also aroused and would like to indulge in sexual acts. Why do these people derive pleasure watching others performing sexual acts? If we go deep into it and find out the reasons for the same there could be some disturbing or even startling revelations.

One of the main reasons why a person becomes a vanilla swinger is perhaps because of some deep rooted emotional problem. Such persons could have suffered some deep emotional trauma in their childhood which could be related to their sexual lives. This could have impacted their ability to perform on the bed and might have made them lose their libido. Further, though marriages are made to last a lifetime and there is supposed to be trust and loyalty between couples, there are increased instances of infidelity and unfaithfulness in marriages. These incidences coupled with stressful married life, unsatisfactory sexual lives could also be factors that could contribute to this bizarre way of venting out sexual emotions. One person in a couple may be interested in the lifestyle of swinging but the other may not, there are actually many levels of being vanilla as a swinger. The term vanilla swinger is a touhg one to describe because it literally means 3-4 different things within the swinging lifestyle.

At the end of the day one has to realize the fact that sex is a very emotional subject and no two persons could be the same. While there could be persons who could have extremely high levels of sexual urge, there could be others who could be tempered in their approach to sex. Continuing with the same types of sexual routines over and over again may at times lead to boredom and dissatisfaction creeping in. Under such situations, it is quite common for couples to try out something new and voyeurism is something that is gaining interest amongst many such couples or even individuals. Some vanilla swingers consider themselves just that, voyeurs.

As long as such practices are restricted to the individuals and do not affect the lives of the partners or other stake holders many of us might consider these symptoms not very wrong. However, more often than not it does not remain this way. It is quite possible for such individuals to start involving their partners. At times the males take pleasure in their wives or partners being enjoyed by somebody else because they are unable to do so for a variety of reasons. Many such sexual escapades often border on BDSM or Bondage, Dominance, Slavery and Masochism even cuckolding. When this happens it certainly becomes a very intense experience for the person who goes through such an experience. Hence, while as a general rule the habit of deriving pleasure from someone else's sexual activities and pleasure is indeed abnormal as compared to what the general public says, when it migrates and travels to the state of BDSM then it certainly must be viewed seriously and necessary preventive action should be taken. However, in many cases even the persons who go through these BDSM processes over a period of time start enjoying it. This certainly can be a very rewarding time if you can get yourself to get involved in swinging and or BDSM.

Related:

The History Of BDSM

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How To Make Your Wife Cuckold You

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