Dear Annie, Yesterday I went on a first date with Tom. I liked him a lot as he was really nice. He treated me to dinner in North Beach and I wanted to thank him. But I want to make sure I don’t come across as too eager to see him again. What is the best way to handle this situation? Shelley
Dear Shelley, Did you show your appreciation during the date? If you thanked him, mentioned what you enjoyed about your date, and ended the evening by telling him that you had a really good time, there's no need to thank him later.
Many guys can think that a follow-up phone call to thank them after a date is an indication that the woman is needy or desperate.
Most dates offer many opportunities to express gratitude. Compliment him on how he planned the date, his choice of venue, his taste in wine or whatever else he has provided for you. Flirtatiously let him know how much you enjoy his company when you are with him.
Some women fear that complimenting their dates will cause them to appear desperate or manipulative. But if they express themselves confidently, their dates are likely to enjoy the attention.
The key is to show appreciation during the date and give him the opportunity to call afterwards. Then he is likely to see you as someone who is kind, appreciative and confident.
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