Oh, that wonderful feeling you get when you have a crush on someone just makes you smile, right? Remember back to the time when you were young and had that schoolboy or schoolgirl crush. Do you remember the feeling of having butterflies in your stomach when you thought of that person? Do you recall both the excitement and anxiety that filled your heart?
Having a crush not only keeps your imagination alive, but it is good for your body. Studies prove that by having a crush, hormones are released that will make you feel sexier and help you attract members of the opposite sex. It allows doors to open and the possibilities to come to the surface.
Just recently, I announced to a friend that I had a crush on Roger Daltrey, lead singer of The Who. I know it sounds silly, but when I had the chance to meet him in person at his Use It or Lose It tour, I jumped at the chance. It was a crush come true.
Since that evening I started asking both singles and married couples about their crushes past and present. Call it a crush boot camp or a crush marathon, but everyone enjoyed the conversation. It just made us feel good. Answers ranged from Bruce Springsteen and President Barack Obama, to Kirsten Dunst and Angelina Jolie. Some even expressed fond memories of the girl next door while in grade school.
More importantly, many have admitted to having crushes while on their first date from someone they met online. Just this week on Facebook, I reconnected with the guy who carried my books on Sadie Hawkins Day when I was a teenager. He admitted that he had a crush on me. We both had that virutal smile along with our keyboards. It felt good.
Call it preparation for getting ready to be available for a new relationship to blossom, or use it to keep your existing relationship alive and exciting. It doesn’t have to be a crush on a celebrity. Any feelings of emotions that get the endorphins flowing may result in you smiling more, feeling better about yourself, and turn a fantasy crush into the reality of a new relationship.
My latest dating advice is to take a moment and reflect on your past or present crushes and see how it makes you feel. Your next crush may be right around the corner.
Julie Spira a dating coach and the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com
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