The 7-year itch: just a movie title? Just an "urban legend"? Or is there some truth to the old wives' tale that after 7 years of marriage, both men AND women are most likely to cheat?
I recently celebrated my 6-year wedding anniversary (we've been together 7 years) and I'm glad to report that we're still going strong. Wait, GLAD? No. I'm ECSTATIC. Love and sex has never been better. But that isn't always the happy case. So is there something to that 7-year itch?
Austrian philosopher Rudolf Steiner theorized that human beings go through seven-year cycles in which our beliefs, ideals, and basic life principles can go through major changes. This idea is also found in yoga teachings, which tell of seven major chakras that take people through 7-year chakra cycles. The concept of chakras comes from tantric and yogic aspects of Hinduism and Buddhism; chakras have physical locations, such as major arteries, but they are also metaphysical (symbolic).
The number seven is also sacred in other religions, such as Christianity: God created the world in seven days, seven is known as the number of completion, Revelation tells of seven angels and seven plagues - the Bible is rife with special attention to this number. Remember Samson, the long-haired strongman? His sacred hair was braided into seven plaits. How about Mary Magdalene? She was cured of seven demons. Israel got itself exiled to Babylon for seventy years. And Jesus told his disciples that they had to forgive their brethren seventy times seven times.
You'll also find seven in important aspects of society and nature. Think about it: seven days in the week, seven notes on the musical scale (do, re, mi, fa, so, la, ti), seven colors in the rainbow (red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo, violet), seven hills upon which Rome was built, seven wonders of the ancient world ...
So maybe the 7-year itch isn't such a crazy idea. After all, after seven years of marriage, the average couple has had two children (according to the CIA, the average is 2.06 children per woman in the United States as of 2013 - don't ask how I know; I'd have to kill ya!). The stresses of birthing and raising young children can wreak havoc on a couple's intimate life. When intimacy goes down, needs go unfulfilled. When needs aren't fulfilled at home, there is a possibility of unhappy spouses looking elsewhere for the affection - both emotional and physical - they crave.
Is that why, at seven years of living together (6 spent married), Mr. Kala and I - having had only one child - are still going strong? Maybe. But we also realize that there is no magic number or mystical formula for predicting marital problems. Trouble can come anytime. So we constantly work to keep our passion going.
How DO you keep the spark alive? Stay tuned - I'm back on Examiner and you'll be seeing lots of shiny new updates from me!