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Tea Mo

“What is commonly called ‘falling in love’ is in most cases an intensification of egoic wanting and needing. You become addicted to another person, or rather to your image of that person. It has nothing to do with true love, which contains no wanting whatsoever. The Spanish language is the most honest in regard to conventional notions of love: Te quiero means “I want you” as well as “I love you.” The other expression for “I love you,” tea mo, which does not have this ambiguity, is rarely used – perhaps because true love is just as rare.” (From "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle)

This is one of the paragraphs of “A New Earth” that has my head churning… Love does not contain wanting… I think that there’s wanting in everything in life – especially love. Because the world, and definitely relationships, are not perfect. People are not perfect. So we always want to be better, have better, do better. We look beyond what we have, into the “better” that could be, and in doing so, we lose everything. And we haven’t even gotten a chance to enjoy what we had.

I find it hard to believe I can live a life without wanting… that goes against (sinful) human nature.

But… in that, I can see where true happiness can be found.