It is not easy being a caring father and mother. It is harder to instill responsibilities in the preadolescents, adolescents and teenagers. However, there is always a way to do it. The problem may be more conducive to the methods and the practices.
Homeschooling, unlike public or private schooling, where the children get dropped off, can be significantly demanding on the father and the mother of any age group offspring. It is a life that moms and dads have chosen because they love their offspring, they want to build more lasting relationships with them, and they want to share their specific beliefs systems with them. These are common things the public or the private systems of education will never be able to replace - building family traditions.
So when the going gets tough and the tough gets going, what is a family that home schools to do when discipline is called for? The answer appears to be simpler than one might expect, yet it requires a skill not many dads and moms seem to posses in this technologically oriented culture – what is the skill? The skill is listening.
Listening is an important skill in any relationship. Why not make it important in the process of cultivating a healthy relationship with ones’ offspring? While there are some people who say that listening to children is a waste of time, and that kids do not have anything significant to say or to offer during their developmental years and beyond, etc., many homeschooling dads and moms are establishing relationships with their offspring other dads and moms would only dream of having – and narcissism or egocentrism are not part of these caring dads’ and moms’ agenda. With this modus operandi on the part of some dads and moms, it is no wonder why most parents drop their children (responsibility) off at care-giving facilities, e.g., public or private school systems. How do homeschooling dads and moms interpret this behavior? Simple, some homeschooling dads and moms believe that these dads and moms are the type of parents that do not have the necessary skills to listen to their children.
Regardless of how insignificant the little ones' talk may be to these types of dads and moms, it is not the essence of the conversation that is important, but the conversation and the attention a father and mother can offer to their offspring (Faber and Mazlish, 1999). It is this which is most important to everyone in the long run.
Faber, A. and Mazlish, E. (1980, 1999). How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk. Avon
Books; New York.