Face it, rejection is one of the worst feelings to ever feel. Being rejected by another person often translates to not being good enough for that person. Outside of relationships, rejection gives the feeling that your best is not good enough.
However, some people are not phased by being rejected. In fact, some people welcome the idea of rejection. What's their secret?
Accept that rejection will happen - Many people think that they are invincible, unable to be harmed by anyone or anything. That is a giant lie. Accepting that rejection will happen takes out the effect of it killing your “invincibility”.
Minimize through words – As stated in this article, connotation can have a great impact on the effect of words despite having similar denotation. Reframing rejection as “a difference in ideas” or “disagreement in style” will help cut down the sting of the word.
Accept what you can control, reject what you cannot control – Many people wrongfully blame themselves as the reason for the rejection. They will feel that they are not good enough to be accepted. What if you gave your very best in the situation and then some? Should you feel bad for being rejected? No. You controlled the only thing you can control in that situation: you.
Prepare to burn & learn – There's this quote that many girls I know often say, but I think only 80% take it to heart: “Everything happens for a reason”. Everything in life builds upon itself as past experiences give a person wisdom about future experiences. Learn from where you have triumphed and failed, then use those experiences in the future.
Rejection is a feeling that every single person on this planet must experience. Some will experience it more than others. Some will let rejection overwhelm them. Whatever the case, rejection is something you must learn to deal with. With this information, you too can become accustomed to rejection.
Did you know that when a bee stings you, it will die since the stinger will stay within your flesh? As a result, its guts will be pulled out as it removes itself. Rejection lingers until you choose to remove its string from you.
Picture credit: Paul Bretnall
Until we meet again,
Olin Gallet
New Orleans Pickup Artist Examiner
odgallet@uno.edu
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