STOP texting that hottie you met at the Sound Bar last weekend and make some plans. It's what you've been wanting to do, anyway. You’ve got the weekend in front of you; it’s time to get off that couch and make a connection without your wingwoman (or man!) present.
Coffee is a better choice than a fancy restaurant for a first meet-up, especially if this has been an online or texting relationship. You may not know very much about this person yet, and just a few profile images are not enough to show you what they look like.
Grabbing a mug of java - or organic green tea with dragonwell, whatever you prefer - offers a chance to connect with someone in a laid-back setting where, even if there are lapses in conversation, there will be enough to stimulate you... and not just the caffeine!
(Consider this: Fifty percent of Match.com singles prefer a casual first date.)
Give them time. Traditional rules such as calling by Wednesday for a weekend date definitely apply if it's a big event - but your goal, Reader, is just some face-time in the middle of the day. Call - don't text! - and ask how their weekend is going. Make your plans a couple of hours in advance.
Be confident. Have a goal in mind, and a venue - even that Starbucks at State & Adams will do. Be open about what you want, i.e.: “I’ve enjoyed getting to know you and it’s time to connect. Let’s grab a cup of coffee and see where it goes.”
Be desirable. Sly one-liners or references to their favorite team let them know that you’ve been listening – and improve your chances of that cup of coffee leading to something even better.
Avoid sounding desperate if your target wants to move it or postpone - just go with the flow. The more flexible you are, the greater your chances of success. Respect their personal time and plans for the day (which in the future may include you.)
The sooner you meet them face-to-face, the sooner you'll know whether they are right for you.
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