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Supporting children through divorce

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Divorce can be a stressful experience, because is hard to keep a grip on decency amidst a maelstrom of emotional and financial insecurity. Divorce is also something that children see much different, than adults.

Parents may become so absorbed in the process of divorce that they may not realize how different their children see the ‘new beginning’.

The actual move from one household to another, whether it happens every few days or just on weekends, can be a very hard time for your children. Transitions represent a major change in your children's reality. Every reunion with one parent is also a separation with the other; each “hello” is also a “goodbye.”

Parenting is full of decisions you’ll have to make with your ex, whether you like each other or not. In joint custody arrangements, transition time is inevitable, but there are many things you can do to help make exchanges and transitions easier – both when your children leave, and when they return.

Cooperating and communicating without blow-ups or bickering makes decision-making easier on everybody. If you aim for consistency, geniality, and teamwork with your ex, the details of child-rearing decisions tend to fall into place.

When it comes to supporting children through custody, separation or divorce, the biggest mistake parents make, is keeping their "children in the dark".

You need to remember that children in general are resilient to experiences such as divorce and separation if they have a good foundation of family support.