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Summer Goals: Focus on Yourself

Some people feel the best time to be single is the summer. There will be tons of guys at the beach and you can have your independence.

Summer is here and make the summer be about you. Sometimes you need to be alone and find inner peace and then enter a relationship.

When you are alone you could do reflecting. You could love yourself and see how amazing you are. Write down a list of qualities that you love about yourself and do things that make you feel good. Work out and get in shape and then look in the mirror and see how any guy would be lucky to be with you.

Work on any issues that you feel you must have and that interferes in relationships. If you have trust issues work on them. It's normal to develop trust issues after being burned after time and time again. Not all guys will cheat on you. It can be a scary feeling but trust is important in relationships. Without trust comes; jealousy, insecurity, feeling needy and before you know it your relationship will fall apart.

Leave the past in the past. You can't do anything about what was done to you in the past but you can do something about the future. Believe that love is out there and take a chance on it.

Don't blame yourself or other guys for the ones that hurt you. If someone cheated on you that was their decision. It says something about them and not you. Not all guys cheat. There will be a guy out there who wants to be with you. Don't play the victim game or get into a mentality "all guys leave." Yes guys may have left you in the past but that doesn't mean they all will.

Change your mindset. Use visualization and affirmations, anything to get on a positive vibration. When you are positive you get more out of life.

Summer is short so make the most of it. Don't worry about being in a relationship. You have to be in a relationship with you before you could be in a relationship with anyone else.