Summertime can wreak havoc on a marriage if a couple is not prepared. What should be a fun and relaxing time can result in lots of tension between one another. When the kids are on summer break, it is important to keep them occupied with wholesome activities. It is also equally important to not lose yourselves in the process.
Here are some tips to help you survive summer break:
-Make your marriage a priority. Summer break does not change the fact that you are married. Your marriage is the center of the family. Kids know when there is tension between mom and dad.
-Relax usual routines, but only to a point. If the kids usually go to bed at 8 when they are in school, change their bedtime to no later than 10. Many parents drop a bedtime altogether during the summer, which means less time together to spend as a couple.
-Maintain a regular date night during the summer months. This is important, because it gives you time to focus on yourselves as a couple for a few hours at a time in a fun and relaxed setting. Your date does not have to be costly. Go to the park, go for a walk, get an ice cream cone. The choices are endless.
Don’t be afraid to tell your kids that you are going to have a “mommy and daddy date”. This is a healthy, honest way of letting your kids know that you love each other and enjoy spending time together alone. If they argue and want to come along, just smile and say it is your special time to be alone together.
-Maintain rules during the summer months. Nothing can upset a family faster than a total relaxation of the rules. It will suddenly feel like your kids are running your home, and in truth…they will be. Remain in control, so that you will not have to deal with any additional stress.
-Make a deal with other couples in the neighborhood to trade babysitting. This is a great and low-cost way of having a sitter on a regular basis. You might even find yourselves all alone for a night. This is the perfect opportunity to stay in for a romantic evening at home.
-Relieve each other of child care duties. Give your spouse a break from time to time if he or she is primarily in charge of caring for the children. This will give your spouse an opportunity to recharge his or her batteries. This will also help your marriage because a stressed out, over-tired spouse will not be nearly as fun to be around as one who is rested and rejuvenated.
-Maintain your family budget. It can be easy to overspend during the summer months when the kids are out of school. Try and plan ahead for the summer and put extra money aside during the rest of the year. This way you will not find yourselves stressing out over your finances. Financial stress can cause problems in your marriage, so it is best to avoid that if possible.
Have fun with your kids this summer. Just remember to nurture yourselves as well in the process so that your marriage will be just as healthy and happy as it should be.