While country star Mindy McCready's recent death by her own hand may seem uncommon, it isn't. It may be among those in the spotlight, but the suicide rates of returning soldiers is at an all-time high, and the average person has the same thoughts from time to time, particularly in the past years of the recession. That's not even counting those with known mental issues. Suicide is so misunderstood. People say it's a selfish act and many religions believe you'll go to hell if you complete the act. These are opinions, and it's more complicated than that.
People have suicidal ideation because they are in a vast amount of pain. Those that are intent on doing it will do it, regardless of those they love or themselves. The pain has gotten to be too great to bear. What pain, you may ask? Psychic pain and physical pain, which has many causes, including Mcready's addiction problems and recent depression over the loss of her ex, can spur on suicidal feelings. What can you do to help someone you may think is in trouble?
1. Let them know you are there to listen, not judge.
2. Call their doctor or get them to one immediately.
3. Offer to watch children/pets/parents.
4. Feed them. A depressed person may resist food, and the lack of it makes moods worse.
5. Love them. It's sometimes the only thing we have.
What not to do:
2. Be fearful. Often, those with suicidal feelings are scared, not violent.
3. Give them alcohol. It makes the depression worse. (Seems obvious, but it's the first thing many people go to.)
4. Call everyone or put it on social media. It can ruin relationships and jobs.
5. Leave them alone.
After dealing with the immediate emergency, love them through the dark days. They may be irritable, moody, and fussy, but they will most likely be grateful. Don't ever be afraid to call the police or 911 for an ambulance. You may save someone's life.