According to American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, over 38,000 Americans took their lives in 2010, the most recent year for which we have data. Suicide accounted for 12 deaths for every 100,000 people nationwide, making it the country’s 10th leading cause of death. Unlike many other leading causes of death, suicide continues to claim more lives each year.
What would it take for someone to feel like they have nothing to live for?
Extremely stressful things such as:
Being under pressure from extended hardships from the economy. He may not be able to deal with the stress of loosing everything; his career is gone, his house foreclosed on, his wife abandons him and takes his kids. Feeling it is his fault. He didn’t make enough money. This hopeless, helpless feeling is enough for some. And yes this has happened.
Having serious relationship conflict: She is in love with someone who is controlling. He is suffocating her. He tells her he loves her. But at the same time, he is cruel in his accusations and mental torment.
After years of this going on she feels she can’t get out of this relationship and realizes she has taken verbal and physical abuse. The degradation is too much to bear. How did she let this happen? Then one day she asks herself, “If this is the only kind of life I can have, why live?”
A parent of someone who has committed suicide thinks, “What did I do wrong?” He or she finds every reason to blame their selves for their child’s suicide. No matter the age of the child, the pain of it is there; this person persecutes their selves, suffers self-loathing and becomes despairing.
These examples are the equivalent to the end of everything, as they know it. The carefree person is now gone, never to return.
But nothing can be further from the truth. Have the courage to take that chance. The preconceived notions, “That if I let someone know they will have me committed” or maybe the thought is, “I couldn’t take the pity.”
The truth is, it takes strength to take that first step in the directions of a survivor. A weak person cannot do it. But then again, weakness is only a perception. Today could be a new beginning.
Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255) provided by the AFSP.