Recognition of issues and problems in coupleships is one thing. Deciding to move on a journey alone or together to understand and process to digestion and invention is another. This is 12th in a series of 12 on couples relating, or not as the case might be.
“We are not the same person this year as last, nor are those we love.
It is a happy chance, if we changing, continue to love a changed person.” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/W._Somerset_Maugham
We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.
If you want knowledge, you must take part in changing the practice of reality. If you want to know the taste of a pear, you must change the pear by eating it yourself. Mao Tse-tung
There are only two tragedies in life. One is not to get your heart’s desire. The other is to get it. George Bernard Shaw
Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely. http://www.quotelly.com/quotes/keyword/william-somerset-maugham/
The expansion of this series has been reflective of the flood of interest in couples issues late this Summer, that has now rolled into Fall and pulled forward the true hopes of preventative actions in couples that are pre-domestic violence couples. Young and old.
In the series of photographs that accompany this article, there are two readings from a Hazelden favorite, The Promise of a New Day. Daily meditative readings help focus on self development, and feed the soul to have stamina for a journey contemplating change instead of conflict. Hazelden produces recovery materials. There are many ways to steady a self and a couple.
The other item is nicked from an Italian post on Tumblr, though that person also did not own it. One figure gestures and says 3, and the other 4. In life, there will be situations that could possibly dissolve relationships that if looked at in another way, might generate a healing path. Most of us don't readily know how to do that, and sometimes a third party with training and insight can bring this forward.
The last is a list of things a couple might need on a journey of change. How many things were things that you would easily name when stepping up to a consider the issues you and your partner face, at the onset of discovering a problem?
Really, there is no simple directional option. The purpose of this particular series was to bring up popular topics and to invite the reader to consider how that might expand or enhance understanding or empathy to discover other paths rather than conflict, violence, violations or avoidance.