Children are very susceptible to a compromised immune system due to high stress levels in the home. When a child witnesses destructive arguments between dysfunctional adults, the child develops a fight or flight response.
Being too young to process a solution, possible thinking somehow the arguments is caused by them (which many times they immaturely conclude) the child will turn the distress of the situation internally, thus producing inner turmoil resulting in a stress disorder and a compromised immune system.
There is evidence sustaining a child's immune system and high stress levels in the home. Typically the medical profession will see allergies, repeated colds and flu's, bronchitis and nervous disorders.
Not knowing how to process what is happening children intuitively begin acting out emotions through inappropriate behavior to draw attention to the fact that there is something happening internally.
Adults having heated disagreements when the children are within ear shot are best able to assist their child by allowing the child to see a solution and a calm outcome of the disagreement. This teaches the child to process negative disagreements into a proper solution, which in turn will assist in play ground disagreements with peers.
There is no reason to hide disagreements from the children, however, having a healthy process to sort through issues and able to teach it to the child through role playing or actual solutions bring great benefits.
Be aware that not all children are alike. Each have different personalities. Some are very sensitive, others are strong with leadership ability at a very young age. How each one handles situations and crisis will consequently be entirely different.
It is in the best interest of the child for the parent to take a keen interest in their child's personality and temperament in order to protect the child during their younger years.
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Not only has stress...been proclaimed a modern worldwide
problem and a fact of life for everyone no matter their age, but, more specifically,
it is pointed to as a health problem of everyday life that affects young people
from 15 to 19 years old. Of particular significance is the stress born of
rapid, bewildering social change and constantly rising
expectations projected by parents, the schools and
Worldwide, there is growing evidence that stress can have a significant
effect on an adolescent’s long-term physical and
mental well-being. (Byrne & Mazanov, 2002; Chandra
& Batada, 2006). Accordingly, the US Department of
Health and Human Services Centers for Disease
Control and Prevention points out that;
Prolonged or unmanaged stress is associated with health problems
later in life, including alcoholism, depression, eating disorders,
heart disease, cancer and other chronic diseases.
Studies reveal that, for many researchers, professionals and educators, there are abundant indications that disturbing effects related to mental and physical
health as well as academic performance result from,
or are at least exacerbated by, a level of stress that
goes beyond young people’s individual ability to
If one steps into the modern day classroom these disorders and dysfunctions are growing rapidly within schools today.
Think first before engaging into violent arguments and destructive disagreements around children and young adults.
Couples counseling and family and marriage therapy is one of the solutions to a peaceful, healthy home life, not only for children and teens, but adults as well.
Live and let others have the opportunity to do the same. Every life is special, age isn't a factor.