It is great to have common interests, be faithful and committed, have shared mutual interests and friends and so on. However important these things are, and they necessary for a lasting relationship, it will not guarantee keeping your love for each other strong and alive if your partner annoys you to no end. There are many who are great parents, share similar hobbies and even physical attraction but are constantly irritated by the other and are constantly fighting.
What is the solution? Be friends first. Why friends you ask?
- Friends tend to support each other.
- Friends are patient and kind and tend to make more allowances for the others' flaws and imperfections, unlike some relationships weighted down with jealousy, expectations and demands.
- Friends are great communicators and usually good listeners.
- Friends are serious when needed but are generally just fun to be around, who wants to be tense and uptight all the time anyway?
- Friends are there for each other in the good times and bad.
The best way to get back to or maintain having a great relationship is to remember what is in it for you, be convinced that having a great relationship is the best way to go. Remind yourself that the goal of your relationship is to treat your partner with the same appreciation, respect and sensitivity that you would your best friend.
Back up your statement: " My partner is my best friend." How do you feel about your best friend, how do your think about your best friend and how to show love to your 'best friend?' Are you genuinely supportive of your partner's dreams, whether they can fulfill them or not? Are trying know who they really are, not what you want them to be.
When you are great friends things work out, you come to a middle ground on things and find a way to share in each other's dream without feeling like you are sacrificing a thing.
Implement being a friend today, reflect and be willing to change a few habits. It is well worth the effort.
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