Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder is a book that I recently read by Paul T. Mason M.S. and Randi Kreger. It is about you guessed it Borderline Personality Disorder and how it affects people who have it and people who do not. I like reading psychology books every now and again because you learn about different aspects of the mind and body and how they can affect others. In some cases, you will learn something positive about the mind and body. In other cases, you will learn something negative. You can also learn about the fact that there are different types of people in this world with different challenges. It does not make you better than they are because you do not have their challenge. It also does not make them better than you because they have that challenge. Everyone has their own challenges and their own successes in life. The important thing to do is to respect other people and to do your very best to meet others halfway.
It is true that your best efforts are not always going to work. In Stop Walking on Eggshells, there are people profiled who honestly decided that they needed help, got the help they needed; and are doing everything they possibly can ( and then some) everyday to live their lives to the fullest and to be good to themselves as well as other people. However, there are also other people who either tried to get help, and it did not work; or others who just did not care about even trying to get help. Whatever problem you or someone you love is facing in life, I believe you should try as hard as you can to resolve it. If you can do it on your own, great. If you cannot, then get the help you need. However, that help is not going to solve the problem if you do not work with the help to solve the problem. One of my favorite proverbs is paraphrased as the following: “Give man some fish; and he will eat for a day. Teach a man how to fish; and he will eat for a lifetime.” However, there is another dimension to this. You can be taught forever and encouraged forever, but if you do not take that knowledge and do something with it, it will not matter. The problem will not get solved at all; and you and/or your family and friends will continue to be in pain. I am not trying to be self-righteous; and I am sorry if I am sounding that way. However, you have to least try. Work as hard as you can to solve problems. You will definitely get somewhere if you do; and it will not just be more fish. Try a boat, a lighthouse, and many other blessings too.