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Stop making excuses and start making the time


It is easy to forget just how enjoyable our friends and family can be when we allow ourselves to get bogged down in the details, but it is important to remind ourselves of the joy that these people bring to our lives by taking the time to simply enjoy them.

I was encouraged today by a group of older ladies from New Jersey. There were seven ladies who had made their own personalized sweatshirts with the logo, “Jersey Girls.” I told the ladies I liked their outfits (they were all wearing dark blue jeans as well); they thanked me and shared that they had the shirts made for a special occasion. I, naturally, inquired as to the occasion and they responded, “We get to be together!” And with this they all chuckled. Two of the ladies clasped hands and smiled at each other, then at me. Before they left, I told them with the warmest sincerity to enjoy their time together. As they walked away, I had no doubt they would.

It is a remarkable thing to see friendship in action. I wrote last week that friendship is found in the little things, and my encounter with these ladies only reaffirmed this for me. They were truly ecstatic just being together. Life had taken each of them in a different direction, but it had not taken their friendship.

While talking with them, I learned that each year they plan a trip together. They began, years ago, visiting one another at someone’s home for the weekend, and once they had been to each person’s place (seven years’ worth of planned visits) they decided to start traveling to new destinations. Something they have now been doing for over 10 years.

My mom and her sisters have a similar tradition. Each year they plan a “sisters’ weekend,” and for some it is the only chance they get to see each other. It warms my heart to see their desire to spend time with one another and their willingness to make it happen in spite of the hectic lives each of them leads.

Both groups of women are strong examples of what is possible when you stop making excuses and start making the time. After all, “if you really want to do something, you’ll find a way; if you don’t, you’ll find an excuse” (Jim Rohn).

Give up your excuses. Challenge yourselves to find a way. Nothing is more worth the effort than a true friend.