Recently I returned back to work after the birth of my second son, and my heart and my mind are definitely still with my family. The guilt and longing are almost too much to bear.
I would like to be a WAHM (Work At Home Mom) at least part-time, and it is in our family plan, but it’s just not possible right now.
According to statistics from 2006, 65%-80% of mothers are working—possibly much higher in the present economy. There is; however, an interesting phenomenon occurring due to the low economy. Many women are being laid off and must make the decision again to work or stay home with the children. Many of the mothers that I know are opting to stay home; citing reasons such as “It works out better for us financially.” and “I’d like to be here for my kids more.”
Even when the opportunity presents itself, it is still a weighty decision. Here’s what you need to know if you’re contemplating becoming a SAHM:
1) Consider your finances. Which expenses are necessary and which are discretionary? Cut back on unnecessary spending and keep track of where your money is going.
You can test having a single income household by putting more/most of the woman’s income into the savings account and pay the bills with only the husband’s income.
2) If you’re worried about becoming bored at home, consider working from home. There are many viable opportunities on the market, and your current position may have the potential to turn into a work-from-home.
3) It can easily get exhausting, lonely, and depressing being at home all day. Set up activities for yourself. There are mommy-groups that meet up for walks, chats, shopping, etc. Also, make sure to set time aside for yourself.
4) Figure out the husband/wife duties of the house beforehand. Your roles are going to change drastically as the woman takes on more duties in the home, the husband takes less, and the woman adjusts to not contributing to the household income. Make sure that you have a clear outline as to avoid feelings of shame or guilt.
These tips, by no means, cover everything that arises with such a drastic change, but by communicating and doing some preparation, it can make the transition a lot smoother and increase the chances of having a more happy and healthy household.
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