They make noise with their silence. They smile like the Cheshire cat. They tell you one thing and someone else gets another version. Most of the time they feel offended and will never say anything directly to the person, no, they just tell everyone else.
Sound like anyone you know?
Splitters and pot stirrers are the most difficult people to work with. They seem logical and reasonable. Yet, underneath they are churning masses of anger, resentment and fear.
Suzie is a great example. In the meeting she thought she was being judged and so what did she do? She put on her face of misery and would not talk. The team leader asked for everyone’s input and she just sat in silence.
He finally said “And what about your thoughts Suzie?” Here was her chance, she glanced at the floor and said “My ideas don’t mean much to you.” He asked again, in a kind and helpful manner. She said “I agree with Don and Sandy.” And that was it for input.
Later at the coffee machine someone said “Hey, why are you so shut down?” Her reply “He just doesn't get me, you know like in the meeting.” No, Don didn't know what she was talking about. He did however suggest that she talk with their boss.
Suzie just nodded and said “He won’t listen to me. I watch him and he does not listen to anybody.”
Yet, when the boss asked her what was wrong she gave a splitter reply, “Oh nothing, it was something at home I would rather not talk about. And, by the way, you did a great job in the meeting today.”
Is this crazy behavior? Let me know what you think and what should be done with a Suzie like this.
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