Singles used to say to their partner, "I need some space" when they wanted to break up. Now, they say it when they move in together.
In times gone by, Granny and Gramps wanted a home to be cozy, simple, and easy to navigate on the interior, with an acre of land for grass, garden, and a downwind outhouse. Kitchens were small, yet bountiful family meals were made from scratch and served with love. Closets were tight, so armoires and cedar chests filled the bedroom to capacity if someone was a clothes horse. Still, couples found a way to procreate ten kids under a simple quilt, while building the modern society we know today.
So, how did we become so distant in our most intimate surroundings? Now a "man cave" is a must-have; large, open floor plans are preferred for conversations with friends, and a master en suite bathroom without double walk-in closets can be a deal-breaker. We seem to want as much separation as possible from others, under one roof.
How is it, then, that we enjoy spas, inns, yachts, and similarly small spaces for romance, fun, and a connection with a special someone when dating? Do we accept someone into our domicile as long as they'll agree to separate sinks? If your home is your castle, does it literally need to be a castle to keep two people comfortable, long-term?
Perhaps it's a sign of the tide shifting away from marriage, in general. Couples want a commitment with love and affection and support, but it feels less risky when their love nest is feathered with freedom, and individual needs are kept whole, rather than compromised. But, that's cohabitating, not truly living... together.
A single thought: space case
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