I was having dinner with a Boca Raton friend the other day in beautiful Mizner Park. The night air was gorgeous and in the midst of our conversation I had an epiphany. My friend is a single, forty-something woman who has been in an on-again, off-again relationship for the past year with a man she feels she loves. The off-again keeps occurring because she feels that he has qualities that she would not want to spend the rest of her life with. However, she said she is really happy now because she has decided to let her reservations go and only think about today. I felt like a light bulb lit up in my head. How did I miss that?
If we have someone who makes us happy today, why isn’t that good enough? Why do we always measure our dates up against the whole rest of our lives? Somewhere along the way, we adopted this attitude that ‘happy right now’ is void of any consideration of the big picture. The truth is; none of us know how much of a future we really have anyway. It made me wonder, when we are so focused on the big picture, are we forgetting to enjoy the not so unpleasant present? Maybe ‘happy right now’ is as good as it gets and we shouldn’t be so quick to reject that.
If you enjoy the one you are with, even if it doesn’t feel like the greatest fairy tale love you have been hoping and waiting for, why not relish in it without guilt or reservation.
If you worry about what might be, and wonder what might have been, you will ignore what is. ~Author Unknown
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