What influences your thoughts and actions? Many things factor into this thought-provoking question, perhaps your moral compass, which might entail spiritual and religious beliefs along with your family values and upbringing, social pressure, economics, and much more. Why might this be worthy of thought? So you are aware of what is motivating your actions and by understanding this awareness, you can fully process whether this source of influence is positive or negative.
Are you moving through your life fulfilling your core desires or have you put your needs aside for the sake of others? Of course, as adult, you have responsibilities to the welfare of others such as children but outside of this role, are you a priority or are you last in the line up? If you are at the end of the priority list, it is likely you will end up unhappy and burnt out. Yes, as a law-abiding adult, it is important that you are a primary source of influence in your own life.
What about the social aspect of your life, do you follow others are do you make individual choices? If you are a follower, it is important to assess the source of influence (the crowd you are hanging with) and determine whether it is worthy of such credence or not.
Do not give your decision-making power away to a group of friends or family who do not have your best interest at stake. Step away from negative influence; it is best to keep yourself in positive light.
Any healthy adult knows the difference between a good and bad action. With a developed moral compass, navigation is easy as long as you follow your conscience. If you do not like the person looking back at you from the mirror, change what influences your behavior to enable you to be happy with your reflection. It is important that you love both yourself and your impact on the world. Be a positive influence for others, wear this role proud.