Remember that bestseller “He’s Just Not That Into You” by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo? Well you should, and take that advice seriously. Of course the movie came out and was a success, but per norm, the book was better. It gave solid examples of situations and instances that really occurred, and the author told you those doomed words “He’s just not that into you, honey”. And boy, were they right.
Since I read that book the minute it hit the bookshelves, my life has not been the same. I see the things more clearly. I was making excuses for these men, and this simple book helped me know when to move on when that beacon of clarity comes blaring through.
To recap a few key points covered:
--He’s not asking you out
--He’s not calling you
--He’s not dating you
These seem so obvious, however sometimes we like to make excuses for men when they don’t do these three simple things that men who ARE interested do. Stop making excuses and move on. Maybe there is something keeping you latched on to the notion that he might change, he might be scared, or maybe hasn’t noticed you yet. Sorry, but he won’t change, he isn’t that scared and he has noticed you, just not in the way you’d hoped.
There is nothing wrong with having hope and faith in love but when we hold on to hope and faith in a man who shows no reciprocation, no contact, and shows no effort, it’s time to put your hope and energy elsewhere. Focus on finding someone who IS into you, have fun with girlfriends, or participate in an activity or hobby that will help you not pine over someone that will never happen.
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