You and your new friend have been seeing a lot of each other at school and it’s becoming obvious to everyone else that you really like each other. So what happens now that you have decided to take your friendship to the next level?
Take them home
You should be excited about introducing your new boyfriend to your family. However, if you are reluctant to bring him around, you may want to ask yourself some questions. Are there some things about him that you are afraid they will find out about? Or could it be that you are unsure about being in the relationship and are afraid that he will get too attached to your family. Your relatives will be able to be more objective than you are and can find out what your boyfriend is about by asking them lots of questions.
Know what to expect
Be honest about why you are together. Two people are usually attracted to each other in some way before they eventually become involved in a relationship. But people also get together for other reasons. Perhaps your boyfriend is failing math and you are smarter than his other female friends or maybe you are more physically more attractive than they are. Knowing what brought you together will give you some idea about where the relationship is heading. For instance, if your boyfriend chose you for your looks, another girl who is more attractive can easily come between you two. And, if he chose you because you are smart and attractive, you could be seeing a lot more of them. Discuss the level of commitment that you will share together. Will you continue to date other people or will you see each other exclusively. Just beware that most adolescent relationships don’t last very long.
Some people’s backgrounds have made it hard for them to behave a certain way. For example, a guy who has grown up in a household in which his father was absent or his mother works a lot may not feel comfortable expressing feelings of vulnerability. So if you are the type that likes to talk about your feelings, this guy is probably not right for you.
Spending time together
Quite naturally you may be in love and want to be together all the time. However, you should continue to make time for your friends. If your boyfriend tries to hog all of your time, you should seriously think about ending the relationship. This is a sign that your boyfriend is abusive. When hanging out, your boyfriend should acknowledge the fact that you are together and not pursue other girls while you are around each other. To do so is disrespectful. Also when going out on dates, it is okay to take turn paying for things.
Dealing with jealous friends and family members
At first it may be hard to tell whether or not they are jealous of your relationship or just trying to look out for your best interest. At this point, you will have to rely on your intuition. Your friend may have seen him first and is ridiculing you for being with him for this reason. And, your boyfriend’s friends may have been causing him to slack off on spending time with you by making fun of the way he feel s about you. In this case, you should both let them know that your relationship is none of their business. This should be enough to get them to quiet down. If not, you should consider ending the friendship.
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