Women will run into every variety of the male species throughout their lives, and some will be marvelous, even amazing while on the other hand, there will be quite a few that shouldn’t be taken seriously if ladies want to avoid disappointment and/or heartache. I have done the research for you, and have found the following male archetypes to be the ones you should avoid at all costs if achieving a solid and lasting relationship is your goal. Which fish should you throw back into the ocean?
The egotist. This guy isn’t half as interested in you as he is in himself. What he likes about you is how you make him feel; with your words, your interest, and your attention. He will string you along with the minimum effort, tossing you complimentary bread crumbs. He’s probably very good looking and used to women flattering and chasing him. He’ll come around when he needs a little ego boost, saying how much he missed you, and then will disappear again when he’s topped his ego tank. This guy will only return your calls when he’s in need. Otherwise, he behaves like the invisible man because you never see him. The only thing you can count on from Mr. Ego is sporadic reappearance where he wants to talk about his favorite subject; himself. Throw this one back. He’s not finished growing.
The closet case. This guy tries too hard in the game of flirtation and isn’t particularly good at it. He’ll advance, retreat, advance again, and then veer off into other subjects where you’re left bereft, and wondering where the change of topic came from. He loves all attention and doesn’t care where it comes from. He expects you to be flattered by his attention, but doesn’t give it often. He is alternately supportive and hostile to the gay lifestyle. The closet case is afraid of who he is so tries to be what he thinks society expects. He may latch onto you in an attempt to be incognito while simultaneously checking out the hotties walking by the two of you; the male hotties. How to spot the closet case – he is single beyond a certain age, neatly pressed and dressed, knows cuisine and couture, and seems okay with compliments from men. This one hasn’t come to his full self-realization yet. Let him ponder a while longer. Toss him back. No need wasting your time on a guy who will ultimately leave you…for another guy.
Mr. Needy. Easy to spot, Mr. Needy is a bit of a whiner and definitely a cling-on. He wants to know what you think before he takes a single step. He always wants your approval. When he has something that must get done, he won’t do it unless you’re there. He has a great need to know where you are at all times, and will overwhelm you with calls, requests, and his constant presence. The thing about this needy gentleman is that it’s always about him, and never about you. You are a prop, a talisman, a favorite blanket to drag around so he feels secure. And just like the blanket, you’ll end up ragged and hauled through the mud by this selfish individual. He’s a bottom feeder. Drop him and let him sink back to the bottom of the ocean.
Three other types to avoid are the users, abusers, and losers. The user will flatter you and take you for whatever he can get whether it be money, sex, or both. He takes but never gives. Abusers will hurt you; physically, mentally, and emotionally. Any man who hurts you with fists or words should be left in the deep end of the ocean to fend for himself against the sharks. Finally, the loser is the guy with no ambition, no goals, and no real love for himself. If a person can’t love themselves, they won’t be astute at loving someone else. The loser may need a friend to steer him towards a better path, but he’s not ready for a girlfriend. It’s okay to be that friend, but set the boundaries up front.
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M. Gwynn has authored two books, Harvest and The Cat Who Wanted to be a Reindeer on Amazon.com .
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