Being a 20-something means you’re old enough to not be the stupid teenager but you’re young enough to do awesome things. However, this is also the time when every person worth their Oreos will have a gem of an advice to give you. This leads you to believe things that you should have no business believing or even knowing about in the first place.
Because, they prove to be your VIP ticket to self-destruction and disappointment. Like these six things…
1) I’m the only one having it tough
Six Disastrous Notions Every 20-Something Needs To Stop Believing Right NowThose who believe the first idea are the first cousins or worse, the same ones who believe this one as well. Being somewhere in the second decade of your life is difficult, sure. But please, you’re not the only one. And if that wasn’t bad enough, you go about complaining about it like there’s no tomorrow. Complaining to no one and no consequence in particular is a humungous waste of time. There isn’t a more pathetic way to destroy your twenties than to act like you’re in your seventies. Unless you’ve found us a cure for cancer, get off the bickering session on Facebook and go get a life.
2) Everything is going to pan itself out
Six Disastrous Notions Every 20-Something Needs To Stop Believing Right NowSelf-belief and optimism is one thing, blind faith quite another. You cannot expect your life to unfold in the best possible ways, while you status update your existence away. Life will pan itself out only if you put everything together first. Make an effort and put yourself out there on the circuit. Hang out with friends who are good for you, stay updated on all that matters, eat healthy, take up a good hobby, and build some good networks.
3) Time-specific planning
Six Disastrous Notions Every 20-Something Needs To Stop Believing Right NowA well-paying job straight out of college, a yearly promotion, an upscale condo within the first five years, marriage in the next three and a plush mansion and kids in ten. Dreaming isn’t the problem, obsessing the timeline of it materializing, is. Give yourself, your goals and dreams some time to breathe. As long as you’re working in the required direction, are willing to take risks, and nourishing your creativity, you’re going to be fine. Don’t try being like a five year old riding on a tiger’s back, juggling knives and jumping through rings of fire. Because, that kid does not exist.
Settling for something that is even remotely second-rate, when you can easily excel at it, is absolutely pathetic. You’re no longer that stupid teenager, neither are you too old to slow down. Twenties are the perfect age to push the limits, form new ones and then break them too. Plus, it’s a little TOO SOON for you to settle down for a crappy job, a crappy partner and crappy opportunities. Turn an idea into reality and complete every project you start. Camp in your pajamas in Antarctica, learn to tame lions in Africa, save the Dolphins, invent a new variety of coffee. Okay, maybe I’m getting carried away, but well, you get the idea.
5) What others think about my decisions
Conformism is as dangerous as it is normal. Not one single earthling cares about your mistakes, unless you’re Kim Kardashian. One of the biggest shackles that clamp every brilliant 20-something’s enthusiasm, is thinking about what others think. It’s anyway hard to find people these days who think anything at all. You think you’re lucky enough to have every bystander judging you like you’re on X Factor? And even if people are judging you, how does it matter? For all you know, they could be doing so from the basement of their mom’s home, while eating cat food for dinner.
6) Self-criticism is good
Being your own judge is okay, but punishing yourself in a weird attempt of achieving excellence is disturbing. This may be the big bad world, but you have people who care about you and who won’t hesitate to tell you the truth. Seek advice of those wiser than you; get some perspective apart from your own. You’ll be surprised to realize that you’re doing far better than you’re crediting yourself.
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