Sir! Sir! Do I call you Ma'am?
Being the guy with a whistle in his mouth and throwing his arms in the air -- when not fist pumping in the club -- is really a thankless job. Even if you do get to play with those pretty colored cards -- or dangling them like the sword hanging over Damocles -- being the official for amateur rugby is not the most glamorous of hobbies.
So why would a former Women's rugby player want to step into those shoes and battle 30 guys or girls on a Saturday?
For one, it's simple. "Because I love rugby. I can't play anymore and I'm not done with the sport"
Sara Rosenthal is a former Georgia Southern and Savannah Shamrocks rugby player who is well known and well liked in the Southeastern US rugby community.
Saturday she refereed her first competitive matrix match, officiating a tight contest between Division 3 powerhouse Hilton Head RFC and a resurgent Golden Isles club. Hilton head took the match 20-12.
She admitted being nervous before the game, as she was when she was a player, and more so because it was a matrix match.
"I was more nervous," she said. "To be honest, through the years Hilton Head has been the top competitor in D3 and Golden Isles is fairly new. So I thought you know - Hilton Head was going to win hands down. It didn't happen like that. At the end of the first half the game was tied 12 - 12."
A one-sided blowout might have been an easier first assignment, but Rosenthal says she enjoyed the pressure.
"When you know it's going to be a close game people are more sensitive to close calls or calls that could have resulted in a try," she explained. "You start thinking back on things and wondering how you can do better or what you would have maybe done differently. In all honesty I think I called a fair game."
Rosenthal purposely set a friendly tone with the captains pre-game, but didn't hesitate to assert her authority.
"When I called the captains together, I assured them that I do not currently have PMS," she said. "I think they could have been a little apprehensive about having a female ref so I just wanted to make light of it.
"I threw my first yellow card," she added. "The guy deserved it, so that was good. I have always worried about throwing my first card."
So, what is next for one of the newest Ma'ams in rugby?
"There's a feeling that I want to be better than I was last match," she said."I know that there are people that thought I did a bad job and some that thought I did a good one. That's the name of the reffing game!! Can't please everyone."