Simon Cowell is speaking out against accusations that his pregnant lover Lauren Silverman is a gold digger who trapped him by getting pregnant. (She's reportedly due to give birth to Cowell's first child in February 2014.) In an interview with Ellen DeGeneres on "The Ellen DeGeneres Show," Cowell also talked about how he's the happiest that he's ever been in his life. What he didn't talk about directly is the betrayal behind the pregnancy and how Silverman had an affair with Cowell while she was married to Cowell's close friend Andrew Silverman. Cowell has never been married.
On Sept. 8, 2013, "The Ellen DeGeneres Show" released clips from the prerecorded interview, which will be televised on Sept. 10, 2013.
DeGeneres is known for doing lightweight interviews, so it's not surprising that she didn't bring up the adultery issue with Cowell. In fact, there hasn't been an interviewer brave enough yet to ask Cowell about the affair. Avoiding this issue is completely out of sync with the disgust that much of the public expressed when they heard about the homewrecking betrayal that Cowell and Lauren Silverman caused with their adulterous affair. The people who have expressed this disgust are not the kind people who would spend one second fawning over Cowell or asking for his autograph or a photo with him, which is what he probably imagines most people would do if they encountered them in person. But many of these people were potential fans and viewers who have lost respect for Cowell.
It's actually kind of pathetic that so-called journalists who have interviewed Cowell since the news broke about the affair have avoided asking him about the adultery, and yet many of these same "celebrity journalists" breathlessly report trivial fluff like Kim Kardashian changing her hair color, as if it's life-changing news.
I doubt that even someone like Piers Morgan, who considers himself a hard-hitting journalist in interviews, would have the guts to grill Cowell on TV about the circumstances of this affair. That's because Cowell is largely responsible for making Morgan a celebrity in the U.S. by hiring him to be a judge on "America's Got Talent."
Instead, all of these star-struck interviewers act as if this pregnancy is all one big happy experience and no one got hurt but it. In divorce papers, Andrew Silverman said that Lauren's affair with Cowell was the reason for the divorce. If you believe the tabloids, the affair was going on for years behind Andrew's back. And yet no one in the media who is interviewing Cowell seems to care about all the emotional damage and destruction this affair has caused the Silverman family.
There's a rumor that Cowell paid off Andrew Silverman in the settlement of Lauren and Andrew's quickie divorce in August 2013. (The settlement was reached one month after Andrew filed for divorce.) I wouldn't be surprised if this payoff rumor is true, so it's understandable if Andrew Silverman, who is a private citizen, can't publicly tell his side of the story, since he probably signed a confidentiality agreement. But journalists who aren't on Cowell's payroll or under one of his many rumored gag orders have no excuse not to ask Cowell (who is a public figure) how and why he had an affair with the wife of one of his closest friends. This wasn't some random one-night stand. It's an adulterous affair that very publicly changed many people's lives. And now Cowell's first child will grow up knowing the circumstances of how he or she came to be, and that's not something to feel entirely good about, unless you have no compassion for the people who were hurt under these circumstances.
And while certain people in the media who are interviewing Cowell and gushing over him about how he's going to be a father for the first time, all these star-struck interviewers act as if Lauren's other child (a 7-year-old son named Adam, from her marriage to Andrew) doesn't exist and wasn't hurt by this scandalous affair. For all intents and purposes, Cowell is going to be an unofficial "stepfather" to Adam, who is now going to be raised in a broken home thanks to the selfish actions of his mother and Cowell. And yet none of these interviewers are asking Cowell to tell his side of the story in being a homewrecker.
Miley Cyrus does some twerking on TV and she gets widely trashed and hated for it by the media. Cowell impregnates the wife of a close friend, and many people in the media give him a free pass and act like he did nothing wrong. You don't have to be a prude to know that what Cowell did is so much worse than what Cyrus did. And frankly, it's all a bit sexist how Cyrus (and I'm not even a fan of hers) gets so much hate when she didn't wreck anyone's marriage and hurt a child by having an affair with the child's married parent.
Not surprisingly, Cowell was very flippant by making a vague reference to the adultery when he told DeGeneres about his first reaction to Lauren's pregnancy: "'Oh my God, this is exciting, and it's going to be a bit of a nightmare for the next few weeks. I mean, as everyone knows it's well-documented. It was kind of uncomfortable, the situation. These things happen. Everything is kind of calm now."
When DeGeneres told Cowell that she thinks his child will be a boy, he smirked, "You'll have to wait and see. There are a lot of boys in my family, so the odds are ..." He mentioned that the child will be raised in New York, Los Angeles and London. (Lauren Silverman is based in New York, while Cowell has homes in Los Angeles and London.) Cowell also added that his widowed mother Julie is thrilled about the pregnancy.
Which brings up another thing that's weird and irresponsible about all these people who are interviewing Cowell about Lauren's pregnancy. No one — and I mean NO ONE — in these interviews has pointed out to Cowell that he and his other siblings were born as the result of their parents having adulterous affairs. Apparently, this is the Cowell way of life to have children through adultery. That doesn't mean it's OK to act this way, especially when a lot of other people get deliberately hurt.
As for the speculation that Lauren is a gold digger, Cowell (who is worth about $380 million, according to the Sunday Times Rich List) dismissed the gold digger claims in his interview with DeGeneres, who did some celebrity butt-kissing by telling Cowell how hard everything must have been on Lauren. (What about Andrew and Adam Silverman and other members of the Silverman family? It's appalling how none of these interviewers seem to care about the real victims in this situation.)
Cowell glibly commented, "I can't blame the media because it was what I call a juicy story. But there's a lot that was said about her, like that she trapped me, that she's a gold digger, and that's absolute nonsense. She's a great girl. Like I said, it was awkward because of the circumstances. She's thrilled. Really, really thrilled ... I'm happy. I'm actually happier than I've ever been!"
It's no secret that Cowell is an egomaniac, but his comments just scream, "IT'S ALL ABOUT ME!" Cowell has made no public apology for the hurt he has caused, which says a lot about his morals and character. We all make mistakes, but he won't even acknowledge that he did anything wrong with this affair or that the members of the Silverman family were emotionally damaged by his adulterous betrayal. It's all so disgustingly selfish.
And how silly it is for a 53-year-old man to be calling his 36-year-old lover a "girl." This is a woman who is the mother of his first child and he's calling her a "girl." That also says a lot about Cowell's mindset. But I suppose many people value fame and money over basic decency and respect for women and marriage. It's really pathetic that there are plenty of these star-struck people who will put up with a lot from a "celebrity" who shows a lacks respect for friendship and marriage and who often refers to women as "girls."
I write a blog about "The X Factor," but that doesn't mean I'm supposed to be a cheerleader for Cowell or "The X Factor." In fact, when I and many other viewers see something that's very wrong, we have the guts to say so. Just because certain people are rich and famous doesn't make them "gods" who are above accountability, especially when their actions deeply hurt other people.
And if anyone wants to make excuses for Cowell, I doubt that you would like it if you were married and one of your closest friends betrayed you in the way that Cowell betrayed Andrew Silverman and hurt an innocent child like Adam Silverman. Think about it. It's not OK to ever do this, even if someone is a "celebrity" who has the money to pay people off and act as if it's OK.
The worst part about Cowell's behavior is that he doesn't seem to be very sorry at all for the damage he has caused since he keeps saying that he's "happier" than he's ever been. Happy that your actions helped ruin a marriage and left a child with a broken home? That is so selfish and wrong.
Cowell is obviously very out of touch with how many viewers have been turned off by his actions. He'll find out soon enough when the ratings for "The X Factor" U.S. continue on their downward spiral and Fox inevitably cancels the show. The show may not be cancelled this year, but it will happen, because people in America clearly are not as enamored with Cowell and "The X Factor" as he would like to think they should be. People can excuse cruel insults to untalented contestants on a TV show. It's harder to make excuses for cruel behavior that ruins a close friend's marriage in real life.